There has been a fair amount of discussion about TTWD - how it works.. how we wish it worked... how to make it work.......... lots of discussions..........
BUT my question this morning is......... what first influenced you ? What made you even look into TTWD?
Wayyyyyyyyyyy back when - almost 50 years ago - I read a book The Story of O
I bought the book - I bought the DVD... Back in the day I believed it was all fiction and often thought how nice it would be if such a lifestyle actually existed. Imagine my shock - my surprise when I discovered there was a lifestyle that embraced a lot of the principals in the book!!!
There was something HOT about being a taken sexually - the dress she wore - no underpants - always available to a male's whim......... omg that was stuff my fantasies were made of.........
Then there was her piercing............. that haunted my day dreams and my night time slumbers........ to have a genital piercing ..
And her branding - now that was something I could not imagine........but still it drew me in....influenced me.
My life went on normally despite my love of the book.. despite my research into this alternate lifestyle... As I grew up (translate to matured) I realized there was some aspects of the book I would never/could never EVER consent to......... the sex slave thing......... shaking head - nope it couldn't happen - for a number of reasons but mostly my belief that sex was something intimate that was only shared with someone you 'loved' ..... someone who valued you and someone you valued. (hell I was a virgin when I got married - so yeah sex slave was NOT for me)
BUT fast forward to my 50th birthday - and a whole new life ahead of me - recently divorced - feeling a freedom for the first time in my life....... I decided to get my first tattoo........ symbolic of my new beginnings........
Things moved fairly quickly from that point on.............
I got my second tattoo ... at the top of my left thigh............... the next best thing to being branded (in my opinion)
And then...............
after much research .... and soul searching... I went and had a genital piercing....
I have to say it was the MOST painful thing I have done to my body -- and to my horror - I orgasmed right there on his paper covered table.....
It also lived up to it's hype.. (for me anyway) it makes my clit much more sensitive and enhances any sexual experience. It was the BEST modification I did to my body.
And then ....... the last tattoo I got ... about 10 years ago - when I was with Sir Steve the first time........
I find I have to explain this one - it's more iconish than real........... it's a view of the back of a geisha carrying a parasol....... and it's on my ankle.
Over the years I tried many different facets of the Story of O....... and slowly pieced together what works for me.........and now what works for me and Sir Steve...
So tell me - what first influenced you?? What first drew you in?
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a quietness and peace in my mind.
I was born a spanko. I remember making up spanking stories before I learned to write and they became sexual when I hit puberty. They were ALWAYS there, but held as a deep dark secret. I read the Story of O, stimulating but not enough love in it to suit me. I also liked the book,
ReplyDelete9 1/2 weeks. But still no love and as usual they made her crazy in the end. I found blogs in 2006 and bingo! Love and spanking. I began sharing my Cassie stories that had been in my head so long. Those stories were so very important to me before the internet!
A little warning like 'Hey clit coming up!" . Here I was scrolling down on my phone eating a moist price of cake when .. HELLO! Lol
ReplyDeleteAnyway, 9 years ago I googled something about husbands and connections. I bought a few relationship books prior and thought I'd be more specific via the internet. I did not expect to find DD and blogland ( It brought me to a blog called Husbandry Touch and from there I found another blog LillieIan which changed everything). Lillie's blog talked about lost connection in a marriage and how DD brought that back. I wanted that no matter what it took.
I had NO idea how my life would change after that. I never thought I was submissive- mostly because I had no idea what it really meant. I most likely thought it was a woman who couldn't fend for herself or required guidance to survive not thrive.
Anyway we have taken so many wide turns since starting Ttwd. I never expected my husband to love control and causing me pain. Lol
Speaking of control, lunch is over- back at it 🙃
willie
ummmmmmm willie - my blog comes with an 'adult only ' warning (grinning)
DeleteI don't know either of the blogs you mentioned .. I started to get into BDSM before the internet.. yeah I am THAT old... so book stores were my introduction ...
Hey Morningstar,
ReplyDeleteI've been fascinated forever. Kinda a mix of things. Reading and researching forever, but concluded DD suited me best. I wanted the deeper connection with the Sheriff.
Maybe one day, I will be brave enough to try some of the other things I want to try.
Hugs
Boo
Story of O... the branding got my attention. Do I want to be branded? Heck no! The Beauty series too. But I think the feelings were always there and I just didn't have anywhere to put them. Then came blogs. I don't think I'll ever fit any kind of label. I want it all some of the time and want some of it all of the time.
ReplyDeletenodding I totally understand your "want it all some of the time and some of it all the time" I'm like that...
Deleteand I had forgotten the Beauty Series - enjoyed that too... great fantasy material :)
Hi Penelope! Long time no see. Nice to know you're still around
Deletewillie
Laughing so hard at Willie innocently eating her cake, scrolling along..... and WHAM! Right in the face. LMAO
ReplyDeleteAs a young married adult, I found the Sleepy Beauty Book and I felt really guilty for being kind of fascinated by SOME of it. Since I was in the literature (or should I say cliterature?) section and not the standard romance section back then, I found Story of O. I could only read parts of it as well.
I think it was up some people's alleys, but for others like me, it was too much overall, so people just picked the parts they liked and experimented in their own lives with that....... that is how I imagine ttwd became a thing. Although in many people's twwd, I see BDSM and do not see much difference. I think many people don't want to be labeled as BDSM, myself included. But if Storm and I were pretty much full on BDSM, that is what I would call it and not ttwd. Shrug. It's subjective though, and I realize that.
Hugs,
Windy
I am learning that BDSM is a culture or lifestyle and I'm not part of that, so I wouldn't want to be called it because it doesn't fit me or I don't fit it.
DeleteI don't go around admitting that I do DD or TTWD either because it's private to me and Storm. I don't want people outside of it knowing that it is part of our life and our sex life.
If you knew my entire strict upbringing, you would see that I have come a long way in 3 years as far as learning to not judge other people, but I do still carry some fears with me. I'm human. And like I said earlier, the definitions and where people fit is subjective and personal and I respect that.
Windy - I'm sorry if I upset you -- I didn't mean anything from my questions - I was just curious. I do understand not discussing your choice of lifestyle with anyone... believe me I do!!
DeleteI admire your desire to learn more - and that I haven't sent you screaming from my blog (smiling)...
interesting thoughts Windy - about folks not wanting to be labelled BDSM........ why would you not want to be labelled BDSM? what about it bothers you?
ReplyDeleteI wasn't really influenced. Instead I had the ideas and then tried to find anything out there to explain it or at the very least, relate to it as a "thing". Unfortunately, back then not much one would find portrayed BDSM as anything enviable. That negative portrayal of something integral to my identity shaped a lot of my personality.
ReplyDeleteAs an underaged teenager in the 1980's myself and a friend decided to see if we looked old enough to get away with going into that shop with the blacked out windows. Perusing the vanilla porn magazines my eyes kept flicking (I hoped unnoticed at the time) to one side, where there where spanking magazines. To discover that there where enough people interested in what I thought I had been alone in fantasizing about all my life, to justify publishing magazines about it changed my world. I wasted some money on a vanilla porn mag and imediately started planning a trip back to that shop on my own.
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... as a young girl child i was always drawn to the "made for tv" movies involving the sex trade/ rape / violence toward women ?? not sure why but i was... found a standard romance porn book of my moms and read parts .. was in college before i experimented with some bondage... then the internet.. found a name for what i was (sub) and what i wanted (Dom) and experimented .. finally found my person and my place :)
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thank you for commenting sugarsack :) I'm glad you shared your story ...
DeleteCurious, that's the chinese word for 'fire'. Is there a story behind that choice?
ReplyDeleteHi Morningstar,
ReplyDeleteI have always been fascinated with spanking. We started with spanking and light D/s for fun, purely erotic and got to the point we wanted to extend things beyond the bedroom. It was actually Rick who discovered DD. Our relationship has gone through many changes over the years.
Hugs
Roz
I have that copy of The Story of O. I loved it, although it seemed a bit extreme. I was interested in spanking long before I read it though. I was intrigued, but not tempted to go for branding, tattoos, or being a sex slave. Sex was rather frightening to me then.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Hermione