(for those that need a warning -- this is it! Gonna talk about sex today - cheeky grin)
I was thinking about orgasms yesterday and how my body has different types of orgasms... and that got me wondering if I was the only one.. or if everyone has different orgasms... and that got me thinking about male orgasms... and the ability to have one.. or the ability to have sex........ and that got me thinking........... ok ok you get the idea I had a bouncing ball day.......
I have been blessed with the ability to have an orgasm easily -- multiple orgasms actually. AND I know a lot of women who don't or can't .... so I don't like to ask too many questions cause yeah I am lucky so shut up kind of thing.
BUT seriously I do have questions -- like I can have orgasms by stimulation to my clit... and I can have orgasms from pain.. and I can have orgasms from penetration.. BUT they are not all equal. The first two are good but not earth shattering - and to me they're a bit like Chinese food (wait for it !!) 2 hours after - what I call - external orgasms I am hornier than before... aching... throbbing horny. The BEST orgasm for me is from penetration...... feeling stretched and full ... him pounding away inside... OMG that's even better !!! Am I weird? or do other women have the same responses?
Then there are males....... OMG talk about a mystery! When I was much younger I figured 'guys' were easy to satisfy... never seemed to take much ya know? BUT then I didn't know much about males or male anatomy. A few years ago I met a male who couldn't physically have sex with his wife...... not the usual ED ... but ED because only porn could please him.. and I'm gathering (though I never asked the pointed questions) pretty over the top porn. I was stunned. It was one of those 'mmmmmmmm' moments ya know?
And then there are the males who can 'go' for hours..... HOURS!! which sounds fantastic BUT is it really?? and what if they can't have an orgasm? I wonder if it is because they are stressed over pleasing their partner ... or what ??? AND why do males equate their masculinity with their sexual prowess? (STOP! I think I've got this one - not much different from women who worry about not being sexy enough right? )
Any thoughts on my questions?? Do you have any questions you're too shy to ask out loud but could ask here where no one knows you?
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Well as you know from a past blog post, I have different reactions at different times due to my state of mind, but mostly by how long I have been o-less. If I am relatively satisfied but still fooling around, it can take me a while. But if it's been weeks 'without' and I have been teased and titillated in that period, I can be a 'hair trigger'.
ReplyDeleteAnd, at least in the past, even recent past, I have been able to orgasm from things other than direct stimulation to the part in question. I once even had a spontaneous orgasm from intense nipple pain. I can orgasm from anal 'pegging'....but not always. I've orgasmed involuntarily during spankings, but not always, and I've even orgasmed just from indulging in oral service to certain of my Honey's parts. But again, a lot of that flexibility is based on the degree of horniness I'm feeling. And I can't say that different stimuli make the orgasm feel different. Any feelings of difference seem to be more due to what's going on with me than what is happening to me. (I guess I'm like dynamite. There are different ways I might 'go off', but the explosion is pretty much the same. LOL
And neither Rosa nor I are into 'sex marathons'. So no tantric sex of hours and hours for us! Anyone with hours to spare just to have sex needs to come over here and we can give them plenty to do to make better use of their time. LOL Sometimes when Rosa is in the mood, she orgasms very quickly, and other times still within a reasonable time. She actually finds if she gets too over-excited, orgasms become more elusive, so she'd rather get off when the iron is hot rather than intentionally prolong it. Besides, 'there are things to do and places to go'.
Prolonging release for me is different since it's not a tantric thing, but cycles of tease and denial with sometimes an eventual release. In that scenario, prolonging things is part of the game, but even then it's not an "hours and hours long" thing.
I don't know kd - I'm a pretty busy woman - Sir Steve too after all he works full time... BUT I rather like spending lots of time indulging in sex - I believe that is time well spent indeed - like enjoying a gourmet meal..... savour it you know ?! (grinning)
DeleteI love to savor things, just not for hours.....unless it's fishing. LOL Rosa and I are very alike in that we like a variety to our day and consider our best days ones where, we saw something new, got something done, and then enjoyed a bit of fun...whether social, culinary, or sexual.
Deleteahhhhhhh no argument from me on the busy days... but a couple of hours over a 'gourmet meal' can be 'experiencing something new... getting something done.. and enjoying it all' (cheeky grin)
DeleteMorningStar and Kd, I am with Rosa on the "while the iron is hot." That's me.
DeleteAnd also, you hooked me at "Fishing for hours and hours." LOL!
Hi Morningstar,
ReplyDeleteThat is fascinating that you find it so easy to orgasm. I know my Sheriff can be "overstimulated" and end up with no orgasm. Which is frustrating for both of us. For myself, I can have multiple orgasms but I have to have a connection with the Sheriff mentally. If it is sex for just having sex, then it is dramatically harder to orgasm if I do at all.
I am a little jealous of you though.
Hugs
Boo
don't be jealous - sounds to me like you have a pretty good 'connection' and understanding of yourself - and the Sheriff and that's a very good thing!
ReplyDeleteAs far as sex goes, I prefer the getting there to the arriving. Perhaps it is just me but my orgasms are never mind-blowing. The stimulation and sensations I get in my penis, from intercourse or solo endeavours are the highlight of my interactions. Consequently, the longer it lasts, the more I enjoy it.
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Hi Morningstar, you are blessed indeed.I can be a slow burner often lol
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Roz
I'm afraid penetration does nothing for me. It's clitoral stimulation or nothing! One I experimented trying to find my G spot with a vibrator -- bought a book of instructions -- and I believe I had an orgasm that way. But it was a lot of work:)
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Hermione
You have no idea how badly I would like to jump into this conversation, but sadly I have little to offer. But I know I'm also like Hermione, penetration - nothing. Clitoral only, and even then not all the time.
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