Great Weekend!

 

What a weekend we had !!!

For my birthday - my brother gave me a gift certificate for my favourite restaurant.  This weekend we decided to have a 'date night' and use the certificate.  Saturday night at the Bistro is always Table d'Hote...... so we placed our order in the afternoon for 3 full courses and arranged a pick up time.  While Sir Steve went to pick it up... I lit some candles and got out the china............. we had sooooo much food that we saved our desserts for Sunday......... 

I had the spring rolls as an appetizer ... then ribs and salad

 

 

Sir Steve had seafood chowder as a starter and seafood alfredo.........

Saturday night our lil town had their Santa Claus Parade - covid style.  The parade was set up in the civic center's parking lot and we were supposed to drive through  - staying safely in the our cars.  Well that was the plan......... unfortunately when we drove over - after 8pm thinking the crowds would have depleted by then - the line up was all the way across town.  Truthfully - neither of us wanted to sit in a line up for god only knows how long to see the 'parade'.  So instead, we took a drive around town - admiring all the Christmas displays on folks' front lawns.

As we lay in bed much later - as I was falling asleep - Sir Steve said 'tomorrow at 1 - I want you naked in bed'  I kinda heard him - I mean it registered - but I don't think I fully believed him ... ya know?  We never - ok rarely - have any form of adult time during the day.................. 

So fast forward to Sunday about 12:55

We were watching some tv show....... I happened to glance at the clock and remembered the '1 pm naked in bed' from the night before....... I wasn't exactly sure what I should do.......... (stop rolling your eyes at me - ya I know I shouldn't have even hesitated - but ya know......... late night whisperings aren't exactly the same as a mid day order - and he may have forgotten - or changed his mind.... or... or...or)  Anyway - at 1:01 Sir Steve said - 'why are you still sitting here?'   Trust me when I say by 1:02 I was getting naked and getting into bed (cheeky grin) 

OH MY!  what fun we had - there was a lot of teasing and slapping and stinging slaps and orgasms and fun fun fun!!

It was a totally stress relieving kind of weekend.... and another weekend of making me feel like a woman - a lovable sexy woman

Life is good when you can unplug and restart..............   

Sunday Sentiments

 

 

 

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ok so I couldn't wait to decorate The Continued Journey - BUT - it is the first Sunday of Advent......... 

Day Off

 

 

Yesterday there was no school for the lil one - she had a PA day ... a day when the teachers are busy doing professional development..... so she went to her Mother's on Thursday.  Which meant ----- I had a day off !!!!

Normally now I do the messages/groceries on Friday afternoon - squished in at the end of the day - usually at the end of a long week.   BUT yesterday I had the whole day - THE WHOLE DAY - to myself to get out and shop.  (though admittedly the stress of being out in plague filled shops was a bit of a downer...... nevertheless...........)

I felt a bit like Santa - making my lists and checking them twice.  I won't have another day to myself before Christmas and  really wanted to make sure I didn't forget anything........

1) baking supplies
2) gift tags
3) gift cards
4) tissue paper
5) baskets
6) find unsliced white bread - a whole loaf and I mean PLAIN white bread
and on and on the list went............

I left the house around 9:30 and started my great adventure............this shopping adventure was so different from past years - now I had my face mask - and a bottle of hand sanitizer.... lysol wipes ......... and no cash... and my own bags (well ok I've always had my own shopping bags)

By the time I got to the last shop of the day - my hands were red - my nose itched soooo badly... and I just wanted to tear the face mask off!!  AND I was exhausted!  I joked with the cashier that after 9 months of isolating and only going out once a week for groceries I was totally out of shape for shopping!  (never mind all the 'peopling' I had to do!)

BUT I got everything - well I think I got everything....... the car was packed to the roof with bags of goodies...............

 

Now I just have to bake ...... and bake........ and bake some more!  I have baskets and baskets (from my shopping spree) to fill for family and friends...... 

 

This way I can be with them all in spirit .........

Life is good when the to do lists get smaller ........... 

It's Never Going to Stop

 So maybe I should learn to tune them out???

Who you ask?? The lil one's other family.  The ones who have fought us tooth and nail over every inch of progress we have made with her... 

Back in March (if you remember) they snuck over a closed border to see a family member and told the lil one she couldn't tell anyone - including the police (teaching her to lie)

Now they're doing the holy than thou act because they aren't going to do Christmas with family members.  AND they assume we are having a HUGE family celebration....... so they have been making all sorts of snide comments on Facebook and to the lil one.

Then last Friday when they picked up they had a 'stranger' in the car....... no one had masks on.

This Friday same 'stranger' in the car with no mask.

Now let me ask you -- how is it ok to have someone squished into a car - BUT not ok to have someone in your house??? They believe they are in the right - they haven't had anyone into their house............. do they honestly believe that Covid won't spread in a car ???? 

Their stupidity and vindictiveness absolutely boggles my mind.  

I just had to speak my mind - here - where I feel safe.

I'm chanting the following over and over till the desire to slap them silly passes..........

 

 

1 Month Today

 

Can you believe one month today is Christmas?!  I know more than a few folks are struggling with the changes this year... the lack of family gatherings... and I know more than a few folks are feeling down......

I have tried very hard since last March to make things as normal as possible around here.. especially for the lil one.  We have already handled whether Santa Claus will be able to visit this year ........the reality of no Santa Claus parade ... no visiting with Santa - sitting on his knee - whispering in his ear what she wants for Christmas.......

AND we're planning a virtual Christmas celebration with the family - one where we share a Christmas feast and even open gifts together!

So yeah - I am more than a little determined to make this Christmas as special as possible. I found a website that will make a personalized video for your lil one from Santa (I'm gonna figure out how to email it to her school email account - hopefully!!)  There is a Holiday of Lights at a conservation area here... drive through... we have already picked up tickets for it..... planning a 'picnic supper and then a magical visit to see the lights.  We have planned one Christmas movie night a week which includes a TV supper (TV rarely happens around here so very special treat!) AND of course I have planned fun craft making days and baking days - and YAY!!  'Daddy' will be on holidays from the 18th till after New Year's - we're gonna make a fancy dancy gingerbread house (the lil one has never made one!) and make fancy Christmas cookies the week he's off! (thank god he LOVES to bake)

This past weekend we put up our BIG tree ...... had our first TV supper with Christmas movie.......... 

 

Then yesterday she and I put up a tree in her room!! complete with fairy lights 

 

Did you notice I didn't mention - not one word - about gifts?!  Cause I want memories to be the important part of the holidays........ 

saw the following on FB the other day and thought I would share.........

 

 (and that may be a theme you see on here over the month of December - memories)

How do I love You?

 

 

There are many ways of showing someone you love them... besides gifts/flowers etc... 

Sir Steve said "I love you" loud and clear this morning............. 

When he brought me my morning coffee it was in MY special Christmas coffee mug (some day I'll tell you the story behind this mug) AND he even had his coffee in a Christmas mug ............. 

 

(my special mug is the "jingle bells" mug)

That - dear friends - is true LOVE !! 

Sunday Sentiments

 

 

 

LOL Day (day 2)

 Yesterday I mentioned that I wasn't a one dimensional person...... that all those earlier blogs about whips and chains and floggers (OH MY!) were to a point an illusion.  I wrote graphically and occasionally added pictures of my body pierced with needles - or of bruising....... I threw caution to the wind and wrote reams of words......... 

Then a combination of things happened....... 

My D/s relationship started to fall apart - fantasies never translate well into real life..

The BDSM parties started to wane - and to be honest got boring........ 

AND I started to question my sanity - especially when I would look at the bruising on a Monday morning.......... 

My writing changed...... my blog started to morph into a vanilla blog...... well more vanilla than BDSM... and I figured folks would stop coming round to read.  

BUT they didn't - you didn't!  The numbers on my 'counter' kept clicking upwards... even when my blogs were full of angst... or emotional pain .... or boring every day activities. 

I think I came to realize that I was more than a submissive - more than a pain slut - and I wanted to write about that side of me.......... I wanted to be multi dimensional.  I wanted any quiet lurkers to see that life is more than BDSM - and that it can flow naturally through every day life..... 

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Yesterday left me gob smacked - so many comments!!  from lurkers as well as regular readers....... I think this was my best LOL day EVER!!  

Thank you to all the lurkers who took a deep breath and left a comment - thank you to all the ones who said they had been reading here for years - thank you to all my 'regulars'.  It was a pretty amazing LOL day!

Welcome Lurkers.......

I can't believe that this is the 15th year of LOL days.  I took a look and apparently I have been participating for 11 of those years....... WOW!

Way back - 11 years ago - my writing / my blog was much more BDSM related than it is today.  It was pretty much one dimensional ... cause as much as I was a submissive playing on weekends.... I was also a mother .... a teacher... a daughter.  

Over the years BDSM has changed - I have changed... my blog has changed.  The one thing that hasn't changed is how many visitors I have every day - coming here to read what I have to say.........

I have made some good friends through the comments left......... virtual friends but also real life friends.  It is really nice to connect with folks who share my weirdness - well at least understand it (BIG grin)

Getting down to the point of this rambling........ 

I want you to feel comfortable to post a comment - even just a small "Hi'....

Remember........ maybe not 'love' but definitely friends............ 

 

 

 

AND thanks to Hermione for hosting this event again this year :) Pop over to her blog and you can find a list of bloggers participating in LOL days
 

Greasy Spoons

 

Selkie and Roz asked me this week about our 'greasy spoon'.... the restaurant where we picked up lunch last Saturday.  I am guessing Roz doesn't know what a 'greasy spoon' is... and I know (grinning) Selkie knows and is curious to find one here in Ontario.

When I moved to Ontario the one thing I missed was Quebec's greasy spoon restaurants - restaurants that served greasy fries and hamburgers....... steamies (hot dogs) ... and Quebec style pizza.

It was our goal to find food we remembered .... and occasionally craved.

and we found one!!  5 minutes from our house!!

And another plus - it's the cutest greasy spoon you've ever seen!

 

Yes that is an actual train caboose!   You climb the stairs and order from the window.  There is no eat in section - it is now and always has been a pick up only.

They have the world's best hamburgers and hot dogs and french fries.  Sir Steve says their poutine is amazing as well - I am not a big fan of poutine.... I like my fries greasy with ketchup........ you can keep the brown gravy and cheese curds!

Here's some pics to help explain............

greasy poutine......... 

just plain greasy french fries............

hamburgers and hot dogs........

 Disclaimer - 

Greasy Spoons will contribute to weight gain.... high cholestral.. and a general unhealthy life style (BUT OMG it's soooooooooo good!!)

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REMEMBER.........
Tomorrow is the start of LOL days!

BIG Countdown

 

 

It's coming....................

Time to start counting down the days......................

to LOL day!!  (gotcha!  bet you thought I was gonna say countdown to Christmas!)

I did a quick check this morning - it seems I have been participating in LOL days since 2011 !!  (had a couple of years off somewhere in the middle - but still....)

For those of you new to this concept........... LOL stands for...

Love          Our           Lurkers 

Lurkers are not as ominous as it sounds - Lurkers are folks who pop by the blogs - read and quietly slip away.  You have a day all to yourself (well 2 days actually)  - LOL day - to honour you and to try and encourage you to leave a little comment - even just a "HI" ... you do not need to come fully out of the shadows - you can post anonymously.

This Friday and Saturday are LOL days....... mark your calendars ......... and come out and say "HI" on your special day !!!

Thanks to Hermione for once again organising this event - and she will be posting a list of all blogs participating on Friday so you can wander around and read new blogs :)

Silver Lining

 

 

This morning I was busy making meatballs........ lots and lots of meatballs

 

I am going to freeze them and use them over the Christmas holidays - some will become cranberry glazed meatballs - some will become meatballs and spaghetti and some may even become meatball subs........ I LOVE to have easy peasy meals over the holidays so that I can enjoy the holidays too.

While I was cooking - thoughts just kept tumbling through my head........
yesterday the lil one and I were putting up some decorations.... she piped up and said how much she loved Christmas with me........... that when Mommy left Christmas was lonely - but then she added 'of course Mommy doesn't really DO Christmas - not like you!'  How I made Christmas fun and exciting.......... it made my tired bones happy - cause I WAS pooped by the time we were decorating ............

I was looking around the house and smiling at the decorations we have put up ... and thinking about meals for the holidays ..... and it hit me ' how bloody lucky we are!' more than lucky really - privileged!!  Made me think about all the folks who won't be having a happy holiday season - because of Covid - because of illness - because of death (we lost a friend this past week) because of finances.  

And then I thought about how whiny I was becoming about the restrictions ......  BUT on the weekend Sir Steve suggested we take a drive out into the country to another small town about 40 minutes away.  There was a shop he wanted to check out.  It was the best drive EVER!!  the sun was shining - the scenery was perfect.  We even stopped at our local 'greasy spoon' and picked up hamburgers and fries for lunch (the BEST burgers you have ever had!!) It was better than any date night we used to have before restrictions...... it was relaxed and fun.. and allowed us to spend some quality / quiet time together.

The skies may be grey and cold... Covid numbers are climbing...and we may be facing another lock down........... BUT I realized no matter what - we have each other.. we have a nice warm house - good food - and love.  Lots and lots of love.  We'll get through this .. all of it....

Life is good when you find the silver lining............ 

Renewing my other self

 

 I had a light bulb moment this weekend........... I was feeling out of touch - lost - verging on angry all the time until last week Sir Steve said (in response to a cheeky comment from me) "No - you will be a good girl".

Then this weekend he was groping me and I pulled back and made a cheeky comment about 'MY private bits" and his response was..... 'WHOSE?? those are mine!"

My reaction to those 2 statements was almost illogical - I felt loved and happy and I felt 'seen'.  These past 9 months I have felt like a house frau - my submissive side was not being recognized or stroked or encouraged.  I have felt like it didn't matter to Sir Steve.... he just wanted me to keep his house and teach his child.  Having him interact with my submissive side did so much to lift my spirits you have no idea!

AND then............... 

Last night Sir Steve told me he was going for a shower and at 7:30 I was to be naked in the bedroom... 

OH OH OH
I got my birthday spanks!!!
AND
a really nice spanking afterwards... such a nice spanking that today it is tender to sit...

AND I love it !!!

Life is very good when both my sides are celebrated.............

Sunday Sentiments

 

 

Early Christmas present

 

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 I got an early Christmas present yesterday........... 

When I was going through all this dental work these past few months.. the most painful thing about it honestly was the cost.  We're not talking hundreds of dollars - we're talking thousands of dollars.

We may have free health care (well mostly free) BUT dental care is not included.  AND - as I have learned - it can just about bankrupt you if you don't have dental insurance... and I didn't.  What I did have was savings........... just enough savings to cover the work.

Back in August Sir Steve was talking to his boss and pointing out to him why he should think about getting 'benefits' for the employees.  His boss said then that he would give us some money towards my teeth. 

Yesterday Sir Steve came in and handed me some money....... from his boss...... and said that there would be some more next week.  I nearly died - he has given us 60% of the cost!!!!!!  60%!!!! and he didn't have to!!!

I had been down because I wasn't going to have the cash this year to do Christmas the way I like to......... and now........ WOW!  I can pick up the lil extras I like to have at this time of the year..... BUT best of all - I have some of my savings back - my rainy day fund. 

(oh and a bit of a side note re my teeth - I am STILL having issues - still having bone slivers work their way out of my gums... still having tenderness .. though it is getting better !  guess the dentists weren't exaggerating when they said it could take 6 months to be fully healed. )

Life is good when people help out even when they don't have to................

Home School Report

 

 

We've been muddling along with home schooling....... I have been slacking off a bit I admit it..... just uploading her work to the teacher without checking it........... 

Her report card came home yesterday.  I was a little shocked at the marks - the marks have definitely gone down from past years.  She needs to work on her math (no surprise) BUT ... even her language classes need some improvement.  GAH!!

I feel like I have failed........ it's my fault.   Truthfully I feel like I might be 'failing' in many aspects of my life....(le sigh) ..... I feel like I'm falling down some rabbit hole...... again.

Life is not good when the voices in my head start their negative talk .........  

Just sayin..........

 

 

11 / 11

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Warm Fuzzies

 

 It was a quiet weekend - a stay at home and veg type of weekend......

The weather was unbelievable for the beginning of November!!  Sunny and warm -- like summer warm!!  Sir Steve humoured me though and put the Christmas garland outside on the stairway to the front door. I had 2 different garlands that we used... to make them look alike I made a quick trip to the dollar store and bought some pine cones and berries and fake snow....... once they were up - I stood back and look at them critically (do I know any other way to look at things?? grinning) and we both declared if no one looked too closely - they really did look the same............ 

We had planned some adult time - but unfortunately Sir Steve had a tummy flair up ... so we have decided to 'go to bed early this week' and make up for a whole lot of missed adult time.

But ya know - I don't feel the weekend was lacking anything...... it was just a 'warm fuzzy' kind of weekend.

Life is good when the warm fuzzies come to visit .......... 

 

Sunday Sentiments

 

 

The Child Within.......

 

 

 Mine is........ has been for many years.

I got such joy from teaching because my inner child got to come out and play every single day!!  Break times would often find me outside playing with the kids.. jumping rope - cheating at baseball - playing 4 corners.

BUT my inner child didn't just play at school - she was always peeking out - being mischievous - often times getting me in trouble with the Dom sorts ....... I was always so repentant - often times saying things like 'yes Sir 3 bags full Sir' or wiggling my ass during spankings...... I wasn't a brat - I knew when it was acceptable and when to reign it in......... 

We are heading into my inner child's favourite season - Christmas... when magic is possible and fairies dance .......... 

This morning I went down to the basement and rescued this lil guy from banishment.......

 

I shampooed his raggedy dusty tattered fur.......... 

I polished his wooden rockers.. 

I combed the knots out of his mane and his tail.......  

 

He's as clean as he'll get .......... and is ready for a big red ribbon and bow for Christmas... I see him surrounded by teddies and maybe have a Raggedy Anne riding on his back....  

BECAUSE - don't ya know - Christmas is for children - even the inner ones who peak out.........

and remember..............

 

This 'n That

 

Lots of little bits of news around here today - in no particular order..........

Had an appointment with the denturist again yesterday - it went much better.  First off.. I had a plan to handle his lateness....... I waited 10 minutes then asked the receptionist if he was gonna be much longer 'cause if he was - I would go and do my shopping...... Amazingly he was suddenly available and took me immediately!! He religned my plate and lo and behold - I'm not gagging nearly as much..... I can eat much easier and even bite into my toast!!  YAY!!  He told me no foods are off limits - if I can chew/eat it I can have it!!  Was out of his office in just under an hour and managed to run some messages before heading home 

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 A week or so ago I joined a Christmas group on FB.  Now my feed is filled with Christmas recipes and decorating and DIY crafts!!  and I am in Christmas heaven!!  I may have suggested to Sir Steve that we start putting stuff up this weekend....... didn't get much of a response so I suggested we put the outside decorations up seeing as the weather is supposed to be spring like!!  Sir Steve agreed!!!  

(LOL am sitting here watching my morning news show while I write this..... and the weather girl just announced she's putting her tree up this weekend - 'we need joy' she said...... so I am not alone in my desire to have twinkly Christmas lights up and feel the joy of the season )

I have finished ALL my Christmas shopping - which isn't really that out of character for me.... I have been shopping early since I was pregnant with my first 'baby' - over 40 years ago!  

AND I have planned my menus for Dec 24 - planned my baking - made lists of ingredients.   Reason being it costs less to spread it out over weeks of shopping cause I may just get some of the stuff on sale ya know??

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Remembrance Day - folks are kinda rabid about NOT decorating till after Nov 11th.  It's something I have struggled over.......... just 'cause I decorate for Christmas does NOT mean I don't hold our veterans close to my heart... on the 11th - BUT also all year long.  Again my dislike of designating one day to honour anyone!!  Also - didn't those soldiers fight for our right to live free - to make decisions that benefit us?? Would they not understand our need for some joy ??? I think they would.

AND for the record - on the 11th I  have every intention of going outside - standing on our front steps.........bowing my head and having the 2 minutes of silence - surrounded by our Christmas greenery and lights!

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On the home schooling front..... just like when I was teaching - I set some goals for the lil one.  The main one being - getting her to speak up and say "I don't understand' OR speak up and say 'when you do that it hurts my feelings" 

This past week twice I have heard her tell her teacher "I don't understand!"  YAY!  AND the little girl she has play dates with - tends to write "ha ha" a lot in response to something the lil one said.  This has been upsetting the lil one (personally I think she assumes the other girl is laughing AT her.)  So the other night we worked on what she could say when she sees the 'haha' ... AND she did it this morning.... YAY!  turns out - the other lil girl explained -  it means she is laughing over something our lil one said - or that she is giggling......... the lil one came to tell me and said she felt soooooo much better!!

AND last week - the lil one made some 'spider' cookies for Halloween all by herself.  I supervised - especially the melting of chocolate in the microwave.... but she read the recipe by herself....... measured the ingredients by herself........ and assembled the cookies herself!!

Next week we're gonna try another recipe - this time for Tiger bars.

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And that's the news from this corner of Blogland

WTF!!

 

I am stunned this morning..... I honestly believed that Biden would win the election hands down...........

Here's some sympathetic memes for my American friends (mostly tongue in cheek)