Protocols - revisited

 

I know some of you don't understand the need for protocols in a relationship....... but this is something I needed to do for me............ so if you aren't interested in my view of protocols .. bye bye.. come back another day

The following is a selection of readings I did over the last few days... 

>Protocol is not ritual, although it may contain ritual elements.

>Ritual is a behavior, repeated by situation or on demand. The purpose of ritual is the ritual itself, and the feelings it creates in the submissive and/or the dominant.

>Protocol rules are the guidelines which the strong willed and intelligent submissive uses to make decisions in the best interests of her Dominant. It is a structure outlining
appropriate behavior and action. It is a set of rules which illustrate the Dominant's desires, needs and priorities. A well-structured Protocol allows confidence on the part of the submissive and the Dominant, and helps take D/S outside the bedroom and into everyday life.

Low Protocol (used most often in normal day to day life) is:

·         A continuous reminder of service and its responsibilities

·         Permitted casual behavior, yet with specific boundaries.

• Recognition of station, orders, demands and requests
  in an invisible and unobtrusive fashion.
• Behavior which reflects the dominant’s intentions and desired
  interaction on a personal and professional level
• Awareness of accountability, despite the temptations
  offered by casual behavior and independence.

Middle Protocol (used most often used at play parties/ munches/events) is: 

•  Prioritize decisions in the appropriate context
• The time and place for degrees of casual behavior
• Consistent ground rules of action and responsibility
• Awareness and anticipation of the dominant’s needs, wants, and
  desires- and those of other respected Dominants in my
  company as a priority
• Focus on BDSM priorities, no matter how long or strenuous the time spent in Middle Protocol

High Protocol (used most often for a short period for the dominant’s amusement – for instruction – or for punishment)  is:

• Complete attention and focus, no matter what the
  distractions.
• Absolute and instantaneous obedience, without delay,
  hesitation or question.
• Decision-making and priorities are NOT part of High
  Protocol; the submissive’s wants, needs and desires are
  suspended.
• All extraneous movement, speech, and thought are
  unacceptable. If HighProtocol is in effect, concentration
  is demanded.
• Awareness that every move, answer and behavior is
  being carefully scrutinized and judged.

Rules always in effect:

·  Good Manners are always appropriate

·  Gratitude is always appropriate

·  Acknowledge a request, order or mistake

·  When in doubt, Ask. When in need, Request.

·  Maximum amount of information, minimum amount of
words. 

>The basic principle of submissive service can be summed up in one word: Attentiveness.

Ø >Your behavior should reflect your attentiveness to the dominant's needs and desires at all times. Your role is to serve those needs and desires.

Ø >Your ability to devotedly serve your dominant is a standard by which others will judge you AND your dominant.

Ø  >Power exchange is used during a scene or during the time when the

dominant and submissive are together

>Submissive’s Obligations:

In rank order, the submissive’s obligations are to her:

1. God

2. Biological Family

3. Education

4. Career/Professional Goals

5. Dominant

6. Household

7. BDSM Community

8. Extracurricular Activities