Tuesday, January 21, 2020

Same Shit Different Day

Just a little history......

My involvement in the kink world may differ slightly compared to yours..... I was very involved in our local BDSM community.... publicly involved.... attending workshops and munches (meet and greets)... going to conventions....frequently playing publicly.

Over the years I was aware of newbies that got involved with some less than savoury characters........ one woman I remember (not young and stupid either) met up with a man at a motel -- was tied up and beaten - not good beating either - black and blue and damaged beating.  

I formed a submissive group (I have talked about that before) - our plan was to educate and support each other.  There have always been predators on the fringes of our community......  it was difficult to hear about the women who were taken advantage of.. who were hurt... some damaged... some driven out of the community in fear.  This was not what I wanted for newbies ... I wanted them to find the joy that the community brought me.

Well the years have passed.  The community has changed ... I have pulled back..... a long way back.  And because I haven't been actively involved I forgot about the dangers that lurk out there ........ 

until yesterday.  I read Bonnie's (My Bottom Smarts) post 'Coping with Hate' .... 
If you are interested go read it..... 

Life is good even when it's a 'same shit different day' situation.


  1. Morningtar,

    I wish there was a way to have that community support. Being "alone" with only online support makes it scary and intimidating. However, I still want to learn, which of course, leaves me frustrated. Ah! Luckily, there are a few people that I connected with who offer support and encouragement, plus commenting on blogs does help (such nice people to meet here!)

    You are a sweetheart to want to help others.


  2. Good on you Morningstar for starting the group and providing support. Unfortunately there there is risk and abuse can occur. Such abuse is truly sickening.


  3. Thank you, MS, for sharing this important message. We are safer together.



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