Wednesday, January 29, 2020
The lil one is a bright energetic little girl - who loves school. And she has the most interesting outlook on the world...... everyone - and I do mean EVERYONE - is her friend. Nothing wrong with that ...nothing at all.... unless of course it interferes with her learning ....... and affects her behaviours.
Ever since Kindergarten we have been told that the lil one talks too much in class. This talking is interfering with her completing her work -- eating her lunch and with her staying focused on the task at hand. We have been trying for 3 years to drill into her the need to listen and focus and to not talk so much.
Last week we got a note from the teacher asking us to 'encourage the lil one to write more (during writing class) and to talk less. We had a long chat with her -- again!! -- and told her if she didn't cut out this chatting then we were going to have to pull her out of dance class. We reminded her of the rule - if school work starts to go down then no more dance........ that education comes first. We thought we had found the right consequence ...... she LOVES her dance class.
Yesterday when she got home -- she explained why she hadn't finished her writing... she HAD to help the other kiddies at her table with their spelling!! - translation 'talking' (le sigh)
BUT the thing that has irritated me the most -- when Sir Steve spoke with the teacher she went on about what a good writer the lil one was .. so we weren't to fuss ... WTF??!! We know she writes/reads very well (beyond her grade level - she's been tested) that wasn't the point was it??!! The point was to stop her talking - distracting the other children - disrupting the class and to get her work finished!
Then the lil one tells us the teacher has never told her to be quiet - to stop talking!! IF that is true then I have to wonder what the hell is wrong with the teacher. How are we supposed to stop the talking - we're not in the class the teacher is....... UGH! When I was teaching I had chatty cathys for sure ... I would stay on top of them reminding them 'no talking' .. there would be weekly notes back and forth to the parents so they were up to date .......... and the child knew the parents were kept informed. Obviously not the way it works now.......
For now the lil one is not going to dance class tomorrow .....we also made sure she understands SHE is in control of IF/WHEN she goes back to class....
Sir Steve is gonna try and get an appointment to see the teacher tomorrow so we can sort this out face to face.
I am not sure there is actually a 'fix' for our chatty cathy......... and that leaves me feeling just a bit impotent ........ and a whole lot frustrated.