People

i wanted to write about people........ all shapes and sizes and flavours and ages.. that "broke bread together" on Sunday evening.......... all under the banner of the "computer group".. BUT really we shared much more than computers ........ we share a lifestyle...(well most of us do)

There was a group of young people all together at one end of the table (good planning??) and it was wonderful to hear them laughing and see them chatting.. i felt like the "old one" (a chaperone maybe??) when i wandered down to their end of the table to visit for a bit..... they didn't need me.. they were enjoying each other's company just fine....... how wonderful it was to see new "blood" coming out to our events...... to hear them planning to attend future events at the local club...........

At the opposite end of the table were a mix of old and new attendees.... mixing .. chatting sharing philosophies .... i joined a discussion about piercings .. and shared laughs and stories......... we should have had a "who travelled the farthest to attend" contest.. it was amazing how far some had come to share a meal with us.......

i got into a discussion /information sharing with a newcomer from out of town....... He was picking my brain about how the group worked here........... He was used to a tiered community........ i was explaining how our community is more divided into separate groups rather than tiered .. divided by language and by philosophy and by politics and how it made me sad.......how nice it would be if we all could be one large group supporting each other's quest/journey.......... but that just isn't how it is here... and as i explained to him it was a large part of why Sir and i have turned more private in our lifestyle...

And i can not forget the woman who cried in the bathroom.. i wrapped my arms around her and let her cry... there were no words to offer....... no wisdom to make things right....... her hubbie - a newbie - was looking for .. well .. for kinky sex i guess... and she was hurt and torn apart by his decision that she was no longer good enough... their marriage vows were no longer good enough........ how could i help this woman who saw me as part she-devil..see that there is much beauty in this lifestyle.. and that NO we are not all looking for kinky sex.. some of us actually have higher goals than that......

And then of course there was her hubbie.......... full of opinions and quick comments.. who made me squirm even before i sat with his wife....... i wish someone would explain to him about "safe sane and consentual" and how that impacts not only those in the lifestyle but also their vanilla partners........ he even had the audicity to push for an invite to the condo for one of O/our private parties........ oh my how disappointed he will be when he discovers that Sir and i are NOT swingers.. and there is no sex offered here.. no hot sweaty sticky bodies rolling around under chains and crosses and spanking benches in our "play room"..

And of course there were all our "old" friends....... come to break bread and enjoy the company of like minded folks... all of it.. every bit of the evening .. made me feel warm and fuzzy and right about this choice i have made.... Some months it is damn difficult to pull myself out of the safety and warmth of kneeling at Sir's feet to attend these munches we organise.......... other times .. like this one.. it just felt right... so many different varieties.. all sharing a meal.. laughter and stimulating conversation...........