temper tantrum!

Some days .. despite all my best efforts.... i just get riled up.......... and today is one of those days....... and if you aren't in the mood to read a rant.. then please check back tomorrow.. cause this is gonna be one major RANT!

(quick editorial comment here......... the situations i am referring to do not involve 24/7 ... the submissives are summoned to the Dom's house OR summoned to attend a party or are summoned to a munch etc... )


i was going to write a whole mess of words/feelings about stables..... However i realize that some of you .. out there in BDSM blog land .. might actually be in one.. love being in one.. and believe in them............ soooooooo i reeled in my rant a tad........ i do not wish to upset the masses...............................

However having said that........ i want to understand how a Dominant.....who runs a stable...... rationalizes the value of it by stipulating that (this is my understanding of this particular philosophy) a) there will most likely always be at least one sub in need of disciplining... b) competitiveness drives subs to greater heights of achievement...... and c) there would always be someone available to make Him tea...... (ok ok that one was probably a tongue in cheek comment... )

Why is it that some Doms enjoy their submissives/slaves misbehaving - so that it gives them an excuse to punish?? What does that say about the Dom's needs?? Does that make them more sadistic?? less sadistic?? What is wrong with just having a good old session??? And why is it that the sub must earn a session - by cleaning the house or weeding the garden or some such chore?? Isn't it just possible that this is..in reality.. just real cheap labour?? Doesn't the Dom just want to have a session for THEIR pleasure??

And why is it that some Doms (or people in general) feel that so much good can be derived from competitiveness?? Why play one sub off against another?? Ultimately isn't that what competing does ?? Isn't it just a little bit possible that competing one against the other could actually break a sub's spirit??

And why is it that some of these Doms that have a stable or strongly believe in the philosophy of one....... do not believe or accept the need of a submissive or slave to have more than one Master?? Why not have a little healthy competition between Doms??

i do believe that for some .. a stable may be the answer.......... maybe for some a poly relationship (which given the number of blogs i read that are poly.. i have to say they - for some strange reason - make more sense to me than stables) BUT i have spoken to more than a few submissives who entered into a stable only to end up feeling less valued.. and having some serious self esteem issues at the end of the day.

And yeah i know.. "your kink - my kink" .. but this is MY blog and this is MY rant........

and one more little rant......... i HATE all the cheap free advertising that appears in the comment sections of the blogs........ therefore i have decided (after holding out as long as i could) to add the verification process ... to those of you who HATE them - i do too!! - i apologise BUT if i have to read one more comment about the best sex sites for buying dildos i will scream!!! so it is verify to comment from now on........

now i will return you all to your regularily scheduled blogs.........