Friday, November 19, 2021

LOL - love our lifestyle - Day

Welcome to LOL (love our lifestyle) Day....... 


I have been working on this post for over a week (mostly in my head)..... cause my lifestyle may look a little different from your lifestyle...... and certainly what I have today is a far cry from what I had 30+ years ago when I actively entered the scene.

So today's post is going to be broken up into  "Then" and "Now" ....... 


 When I first entered the scene - it was mostly private ..... by invite only....... secret handshakes and back alleys.  It was exciting........

There was a dress code - strict behaviour rules - and rituals that made it all that much more heady. 

Inside the privacy of the clubs there was a huge element of exhibitionism......literally being on display... both Dom and sub alike.  BUT there was never total nudity and definitely NO sex.  My 'uniform' for the clubs was usually a corset....... thigh high stockings.. and thongs.  I learned very quickly that once laced into a corset you didn't slouch... you didn't sit sprawled - you 'perched' ... and oh dear lord you didn't EAT. 



The Doms were always dressed entirely in black and often times in leathers.. leather pants, leather coats and leather boots.



There were usually numerous bits of equipment to use - from spanking benches to St Andrew Crosses to other forms of torture.  My favourite piece of equipment was the St Andrew cross.... and most weekends would find me up on a cross getting my ass whooped....feeding the masochist


There weren't crowds and crowds of people in those days...... mostly serious participants and 24/7 couples.  About 10 years ago things started changing..... BDSM clubs started opening around town...... they weren't private and more and more 'players' started to attend.  Then it really started to go downhill when sex was allowed even encouraged (in some clubs).   There was a saying among the old timers .. that S/m had a new meaning - it now meant "stand and model".  The 'pretty people' dressed in expensive leathers and silks and satins could be found lounging around on the equipment - posing for photo shoots.  We started looking for more private events again....... places where we could play without 'scaring' the players.   

 It seemed the glory days of BDSM had waned. 


 

With Sir Steve - the lifestyle looks a whole lot different.  I have been thinking about how it looks now....... I still 'serve' (which soothes my soul) BUT it isn't unthinkable for Sir Steve to come and lend a hand - be it making dinner or baking or shopping.  We're a team...... no absolute clear division of top and bottom.  And I rather like that.  (though it took me a long while to get used to it)  

There are little touches of BDSM in our life...... Sir Steve can 'grope' my breasts whenever the spirit moves him and I'm not to prevent him from doing so.... though if I do .. it's not a punishable offence - more an opportunity for more slaps and tickles and laughter.   And  my favourite....... in the morning when he leaves for work..... he bends over to kiss me goodbye and he thrusts his hand between my legs and teases me... until I am wiggling to get away......... 

There are 'painful' moments in our adult time....... definitely pussy torture and breath play occasionally - and of course knife play from time to time. 

Our lifestyle has changed drastically from 'before'...... do I miss the before?? yeah of course I do - well a small part of me misses it... I'm glad I got to participate/live the before.... but living in the past and moaning about how everything has changed takes the sparkle off the 'now'.......... and I do love the sparkle of the here and now

I may not have the socialization in real time with like minded folks as we did before - BUT I do still have The Continued Journey and all you folks who drop by to visit. 

Thanks to Hermione for organising this day...... for suggesting that we all get together to celebrate our uniqueness ...... IF you feel like sharing the joys (and tribulations) of this lifestyle - feel free to jump in !! 

Either way - thanks for dropping by............

24 comments:

  1. Happy LoL day Morningstar, I enjoyed reading your reflections on the before and now :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. thanks Roz my faithful reader/commentor :)

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  2. Happy LoL Day dear Morningstar!

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  3. Hi Morningstar,

    Your life certainly has changed, but change is inevitable for all of us. Thanks for the walk down memory lane. Yours has been a change for the better.

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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    1. Yes this change definitely has been for the better Hermione

      Thanks again for hosting LOL day.. I am finding so many blogs I have never visited before :)

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  4. Morningstar - Happy LOL day. I loved reading your post today on how your life has changed. Thank you for sharing this.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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    1. Thanks for dropping by ronnie :)

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  5. Hello, fun to learn about your then and now. Thanks for sharing. Happy LOL Day! :-)

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    1. nice to see you drop in Terpischore :)

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  6. I like this before and after post! That was never what we did, but I like that I feel I can really understand it - the desire, the longing... But like you I like 'now' it's not perfect, but life isn't meant to be. I'm glad you're still here.

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    1. 'still here'?? LOL trust me PK I'll be here forever! probably be posting on my death bed LOL

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  7. Happy LOL Day Morningstar !

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    1. Thank you Courandair - nice to meet you - so to speak :)

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  8. You certainly embody the essence of loving our lifestyle. Your journey is always enlightening. Thank you for sharing!

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    1. Thank you Bonnie :) The journey has been very full :) with lots of souvenirs - mostly the friends I have made a long the way

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  9. I love the part where it said you're focused on the sparkle of here and now. That will be something I will keep in mind as Storm and I move onward with...well, we'll see! Thanks for sharing a bit of your history and of course, your ever so important present with Sir Steve! Happy LOL Day, MorningStar! Hugs, Windy

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    1. thanks Windy - I do believe the sparkle of now is brighter than all the sparkles from the past :) am hoping you will chronicle your journey forward with Storm.

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  10. (waving) First time here for me too -- thanks for stopping by my place! ♥ Happy LOL Day!

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    1. I'll bring my coffee and come visit again soon.. promise!

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  11. Happy LOL Day. It must have been a nightmare, in your before times, for a vegan Dom to put together an outfit :)

    Prefectdt

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    1. LOL OHHHHHHHHHH Prefectdt... you almost always make me laugh... tell me something are you this funny in real life?? LOL

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  12. MorningStar - Thank you for sharing part of your journey today. It was very uplifting in my opinion.

    To answer your prompt about sharing the joys and tribulations of this lifestyle, I'll summarize it briefly as:

    The joy is finding kindred spirits, the reassurance that we are not alone.

    The tribulations are when crossing paths with certain like minded spirits (those that we want to spend more time with in particular) and coming to the unfortunate realization that we are not on the same place along this road.

    Best,
    Enzo


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    1. hi Enzo !! thanks for popping by

      I couldn't agree more with your comment about the joy is when you find kindred spirits.. I was like a kid in the candy store at my first play party - all these people who were just like me!!!

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