But along with cock pictures being privately sent out (some not so private I agree) there are multitudes of pictures of women's breasts and female pink bits. Hell I have posted one or two pics of my ass with marks (though not on Fet - mostly here)
Anyway yesterday I stumbled across a picture cause so many of my "friends" were liking it............... it was a picture of a female with only a thong on - legs spread wide - leaving nothing - and I do mean NOTHING - to the imagination. There were many comments from males (and a couple of females) suggesting what they would like to do in that region of her body.
The sex is not just online either. At public play parties I have seen (with my very own eyes) two males engaging in anal sex literally in the middle of the room.... I have seen more blow jobs than I care to remember ... I watched as a woman was finger fucking/teasing another woman over her lap - when the "doer" got called away she simply flipped the woman off her knee and onto someone else's to be "finished up"
In my opinion - and I will repeat that in case anyone missed it - IN MY OPINION - public play parties now are just one big sexual orgy,
Ok now put that thought aside for a moment - and let's look at another issue that has raised it's ugly head............
There has been an increase (on my feed anyway) of journal entries that discuss abuse and inappropriate behaviour during play sessions. Many people are getting all bent out of shape about it.. there have been accusations against "leaders of communities" and just your average joe blow. There have been an increasing number of cries to arms - to do something to protect the poor lil subbies who are being taken advantage of.........
Now at the risk of sounding like I am "blaming the victim" I need to play devil's advocate for just one minute here......................
Imagine being new to BDSM - joining Fetlife reading and looking at pictures - trying to figure out what this thing - this BDSM - is all about - imagine what this newbie is seeing and learning...................
Now this newbie goes to his/her first public play party. They stand and watch the goings on............. they see nudity and people groping each other and "getting it on" (is that expression still used??!!) What definition of BDSM - what conclusions are they going to come to???
I have heard "educators" and "demonstrators" say - "if it isn't sensual or sexual no one's gonna want to watch".
And so it isn't just the newbies who are getting mixed messages (again IN MY OPINION) everyone is. If it isn't about sex - about blow jobs and anal hooks and fucking then it isn't any fun at all.
I disagree. (obviously)
The very first elaborate rope scene I watched - involved a woman in bra and panties being woven into a huge "spider web". There was no sexual touching - no sensual behaviours - hinted at - or blatantly exhibited. Yet that scene held my attention - mesmerized me. It showed me what / how rope could be a thing of beauty.
I am afraid I don't have a whole mess of sympathy for the Doms and subs alike who write long rants about how they have been taken advantage of / had their scenes ruined by some groper. SHRUG........... if you are gonna sell BDSM as a sexual encounter you have to expect this sort of behaviour.
I am old fashioned - and I do know where to draw the line which probably makes me no fun in many people's eyes. But I don't much care - I don't see BDSM as a popularity contest - OR a sex orgy - not then - not now - not EVER.