So - as you know I joined an online dating site.
And if any of you have ever been on one - or know anything about them - it's a bit like a meat market. Within 24 hours of my joining I was a little overwhelmed by the number of men wanting to "date" me but I realized a few things - mainly I wasn't desperate ........ I wasn't in a hurry ... and I was gonna be picky,
I realized it wasn't important to have a date - what was important was to be ME - and if they didn't accept ME I wasn't gonna change one lil thing to be more acceptable. I matter more - much more - than finding a date.
One chap contacted me - he was clever in his writing - challenging a bit. He intrigued me. On Friday he suggested we might meet up for coffee. I figured why not - let's not waste time - there either is chemistry / interest or there isn't. So I agreed. We were set to meet yesterday at a local restaurant for coffee.
It went ok. We had good discussions about everything from kids/education to family to politics.
My observations following the date ............
The best part of this date - the very best part - it felt so damn good to be ogled by a man again - and know he was impressed with what he saw.
It felt good to be seen as a woman - maybe even a reasonably hot woman! It's been a long time since I felt pretty and desirable.
And he kissed me - softly and very gentlemanly - I grinned inside and was bold enough to take it up just a notch or two before gracefully stepping out of his car (where we had been sitting having a smoke)
And it felt pretty damn good when he asked if I wanted to see him again ........... and I didn't jump at it - didn't feel desperate to hold on - to see him immediately - instead I said yes I would like to see him again- but we'd have to play it by ear - it's Christmas time and I am busy.
When I walked away from his car I had a spring in my step and dare I say a little wiggle to my ass............
I felt like a woman again - a good looking woman - a woman worthy of a kiss and a second date.
And the other thing I realized - there IS life after 65 ........ and it looks pretty damn good to me!