Despite my illness these past 3 days... despite the fever ravaged brain.. i did manage to float around occasionally on the net and touch base with the blogs i read... i didn't comment much because - honestly - i couldn't stay focused for too long on any one thing.. and when i did try to leave comments.. they seemed a bit garbled for me..( if you did get a rather confusing comment from me.. that is my story and i am sticking to it !!)
i don't remember much of what i read over the weekend........ i am just left with impressions......
one of the things that stuck with me .. was how young some of the bloggers are - my god some are younger than my own children !! (i feel so damn old!!) and they are so full of opinions and how it should all work.. and so many other enthusiasms we all suffered from when we were that young. i found myself smiling and nodding and thinking.. "just wait sweet thing till you have a little more experience.. in life never mind the lifestyle" - which sounds so damn condescending ya know?? but oh so true.
and somewhere i read - kaya's blog i think - that there was chatter on Fetlife (the young do so love to gather on "in groups" don't they??) about what to do if a Master ordered His slave to marry Him.......... something like that.. and i gather the slaves were all up in arms.. and oh how unromantic of Him... and Ya just can't order something like marriage.. and stuff like that...
And the old wise owls came out to scold and chatter and do their "tsks tsks" ....
i myself believe they will learn.. (or not) as they grow.... and one day look back and wonder what made them believe "a" or "b" or "c" .. when they were exploring and experimenting.......
i am of a different opinion from the young ones that gather in groups and chatter away like squirrels......... but then i had the "fairy tale wedding" that so many little girls dream of.. and look where it landed me???
For almost 8 years i have been collared to Sir... slave or submissive whatever you want to call it. i offered Him myself.. with all the bumps and bruises and imperfections... i offered to obey Him and trust Him and honour Him....
There was no "fairy tale" anything.. no wedding.. no big collaring ceremony - it was done in the privacy of our basement with only one other person in attendance... yeah i would have liked a big collaring ceremony like so many had........ but then when i look back now ... well not many of them are still together.... so i have come to the conclusion that the words between two people matter much more than the ceremony - or the hoards of people attending.
AND........... to get to the other point in my fuzzy brain.........
Why is everyone all a twitter over a Master ORDERING a marriage?? Is it not His right?? if you are His slave - isn't your job to obey His every order?? Is marriage somehow more binding than the collar around your neck?? Is it more real??
If it is ..........then what kind of slave are you?? Are you in it just till something more fun/more interesting comes along?? Is it just fun to be part of the "in crowd" playing at servitude and being a masochist?
It all brings back an image (that won't mean anything to most of you.. but will hit home with some) of a slave in fancy fet wear - being put up on a cross at a public play party - the weekend she became engaged to her Master.. and how she spread the fingers of her left hand wide and admired the sparkle of the diamond that adorned her ring finger - so absorbed in the sparkle - she was really totally unaware of her Master.
i am an old submissive........ been round the block more than a few times....... and this ring that i wear on my left hand is all the sparkle .. all the bling i need........
For you see.. i am Sir's submissive.. yesterday.. today .. and forever.
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and there is one other thing that is niggling at my brain........ there is website that is linking to a bunch of us BDSM bloggers - without our knowledge... and it would appear that when someone hits the link to our blogs.. it automatically puts an advert up on our site (for the duration of the visit) ......... Rather unethical if you ask me.... and for me at least... it goes against the philosophy i have of this being a totally free site.. free to view.. free of adverts.. just plain free......
i am contemplating a number of different actions............
BUT one action may be publically posting the website so that you can see if your blog is linked........
stay tuned.....
This ring is beautiful....
ReplyDeleteIs the same of history the Ó.
Strong, intense and beautiful!!!
Kiss,
ÍsisdoJun
I think what you are is straight headed, balanced and wise - I've been reading about the brouhaha on Fet through a number of my favourite bloggers like you and Swan (Swan did an excellent overview on it as well - togther I think you two covered it perfectly) -
ReplyDeleteAs i haven't belonged to Fet for a very long time, haven't read the "discussion" there but I don't think I need to;
I think the whole thing is EXACTLY what you're describing which at its most simplistic is fantasy versus reality - which sorta underlines one of teh reasons I left Fet in the first place - the "fantasizers" so outnumbered the "real" people.
In its own way, take the kink out and it is exactly like all those silly girls who spend years planning their damn wedding and not one second thinking about what happens AFTER. Yeah, the real life part -
forgot ..is it that john smith guy?? I've been deleting a bunch of his comments as he has a link right in his comments
ReplyDeleteAbout the blogrolling.com thing - There is no mention on their sign up page about adding adverts to linked blogs and when I signed up (the only way to communicate with them, as they do not show an email address. I did not get their blog roll managing thing), so that I could tell them to get their adverts off my blog there was also no mention of the adverts, unless it was buried somewhere in the, as usual, over lengthy "Terms of service", That obviously no one reads. The bloggers concerned may not have been aware of the adverts and may just have been thinking they where getting a nifty little blog roll managing thingy. I can see no way that the bloggers can be making money from this. So far in my investigations, all the blame seems to rest with blogrolling.com.
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Dear littleone,
ReplyDeleteThank you for your words of unfailing wisdom.
Best to you,
slave freya
kitten has been reading your blog for a while now, the reason- it is one of the few she has found that makes sense ! There is no talk of you telling your Master what to do or not do, no mention of unrealistic goals or dreams, no fantasies that are just that, plain fantasies with no foundation or experience in this life, like you kitten has been a slave for a long time, and during that time she has seen the young ones play their games and try to dictate and change the rules as it was, seen some others play at being submissive when in fact they are looking for an equal partnership or a husband or boy friend, so kitten would like to thank you for your straight talking honest view of this life that you lead
ReplyDeleteThank you
kitten
I am sorry but I must you are saying in your blog that if your Master orders you to do something safe and sane not really consensual you will obey him? Is that what I understand.
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like you might be feeling a touch better.
ReplyDeleteAnd also, isn't it always the young ones that think they just invented everything and of course, know exactly how it works?
:)
Once again, I am pretty much convinced that you and I must have been separated at birth.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry you are still feeling crummy, but I applaud your wisdom.
hugs, swan