Unlike many who read here - we (Sir Steve and I) enjoy pain for pain's sake. There are no punishments - no resets. I was explaining to Baker this morning, spankings for us are more like being horny for sex...... we crave pain and set out to satisfy that need. (that's how it works with a masochist and a Sadist)
AND the pain doesn't have to come just from spankings....... we have in the past used knives and clamps and other 'instruments of torture' to fulfill those needs. For the last year or so we haven't really indulged in spankings - because our space isn't truthfully conducive to pain play. (though we are looking forward to our new home with the huge bedroom/play space)
We've adapted and modified........... we find our pain release in sex........
Last night was spectacular pain fulfillment. His hands around my neck tightening ...loosening.... tightening again. My hand on his cock stroking keeping the rhythm all the while I am feeling his strength on my neck... my heart pounding. His hands tugging on my clit jewelry. Then he rams into me - no gentleness - just wham bang thank you Ma'am sort of entry. I gasp - trying to wiggle around to ease his entry - feeling myself stretching to tearing ..... and loving every minute of it.
Sometimes you have bruises and discomfort after a spanking..... the morning after an intense session with Sir Steve - I am sore and stretched and feeling the after effects. I can close my eyes and feel his hands on my neck - can feel the ache deep inside me..... and I smile. The need has been filled. All's right with the world. I am loved!
I love all this. I love that you both had a great night that fulfilled each of you. I like understanding your desire even thought I don't share the same desire. I know how many people don't understand my desires and if I let them they would take the time to explain to me why it's wrong and that I should stop. Keep having fun!
ReplyDeletefunny PK - I would say our lifestyle is more extreme than yours (and many others) and yet no one has ever tried to convince me this is wrong. Maybe they're scared of me?? LOL anyway... I know I used to be shy / scared to say the words 'masochhist' and 'Sadist' out loud - but over the years I have changed :)
DeleteI LOVE that you two found each other. I love the trust you both have in each other as you strive to fill each of your needs.
ReplyDeleteI am glad that you are pleasantly sore today.
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boo
you are SO right Boo - we are so lucky to have found each other...... I had just about given up hope of finding a suitable Sadist when Sir Steve and I came back together......
Deleteglad you had a great night - I know how much it centres you so that is such a great thing! I miss those days.... D. and I in our glory days were similar - perhaps not to the extent (but truth be told, not far from it!)- definitley an S/m dynamic and I found pain in the right circumstances could literally transform.
ReplyDeleteselkie I know (we've talked about it a little bit) how the kink disappeared from your marriage - I was just thinking about you last week and I have to tell you how much I admire your love and commitment to your marriage. It is something to be proud of!
DeleteFunishments instead of punishments. It sounds good to me. I just enjoy pain play too much to think of it as punishment.
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I thought you might 'get it' Prefectdt :) I think in some ways we are two of a kind :)
DeleteLoved this glimpse into how your relationship works for you Morningstar. Glad you had such a wonderful night :)
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Roz
I do wonder when I post something like this who I'm going to shock... thankfully I had all supportive comments on this post.
DeleteTrust that you will never shock me ;). We may not play the same way or for the same reasons ( I'm not a masochist but I am a submissive so my pain for his pleasure activates something in me- anyway we've had that discussion before).
DeleteI wasn't going to comment but after reading you still felt a bit of trepidation before posting I thought I should. Pain releases endorphins in all of us, the only variation I believe is who needs how much and what they are hoping to achieve from it. For me, it's the ultimate show of submission,and domination ( which is why making it sexual for *me* doesn't work ) for you it's the pain and the connection created because of your simbiotic relationship that makes it sexually charged for you (?) For some who consider their dynamic more tame- who knows? But there is pain in spanking so really on one level we have a commonality.
Happy to hear things came back on track for you. While I don't enjoy the pain while it's occuring I do have a bizarre sense of pride the days after when I'm reminded of it. Like the gift that keeps on giving lol.
willie
thanks for the comment willie - I totally understand how there is a definite commonality but not everyone understands my love of pain for pain sakes... the same way I sometimes struggle with someone wanting to be punished...
Deletegood to see you pop in every once in a while .... I do miss your writing...
Thank you Morningstar it's kind of you to say, and very much appreciated.
ReplyDeleteI think it's okay for people to not understand how things make others feel- so long as we respect their rights to feel them. And maybe it's not that we don't understand each other but that we cannot see ourselves in that agreement. And that's fine, as the old saying goes " Your kink is not my kink and that's okay". I think the danger and feelings of inadequacy stem from being judged or perhaps feeling like we are not serious, true, legit...blah, blah, blah. Comparison is a thief. I figure as long as no one gets hurt ( well in a way they don't need) who cares? Though it took me a long time to get to that point and authentically mean it.
Again thanks for your kind words 💕