Ok..so if everyone is paying attention - I shouldn't have to define "golden showers".
The other day I was surfing around the blogs I read .. and over on Slave Interrupted, I found a piece on golden showers.
Now W has done it to me.... maybe more than once ......... but honestly I don't remember. I do remember thinking "WTF ??!!" closing my eyes and sealing my lips and thinking ok just get it over with. (great submissive response - right?? )
I didn't feel humiliated - or indignant - or owned - or .......... anything actually. I did think 'well ok I have experienced THAT .. let's check it off the list'. It most definitely wasn't a turn on (for me) ....... it was a .......... nothing.
But I am fully aware there are a whole mess of Doms and subs out there who indulge frequently in golden showers. I also know it is on most check lists. I also know I originally - many years back - had to look up what the hell a "golden shower" was. I've come a long way since those days !!
But the whole blog entry got me thinking about my reaction to golden showers. I don't have any reaction to it actually - though if W did it and insisted I swallow - we could have a problem - hell I don't even swallow yogurt!! (cheeky grin)
I do know that every once in a while I used to tease W when he would get up to go to the toilet and I would ask in my cheeky way - 'need any help??' Every once in a while he would tease back and say "yeah come hold it" ........... now THAT got a reaction out of me.. ........... hold it??? THAT would be humiliating I think.... but perhaps more awkward than humiliating. Don't ask me why that would affect me more than being peed on....... god only knows... but the thought of it sure affects me.
I have touched on humiliation play before - not sure I have thought much or talked much about degradation play - but my reaction to the whole thing is ......... not for me. I don't know - but having to step out of the persona that is me - having to change my norm - feels awkward and more like a "time out while we do this" sort of thing.
I prefer my BDSM to flow naturally - to feel natural. Over the years I have learned there are a whole mess of things that I CAN do - but don't do because I see no point in them. Examples abound......... from foot/boot worship - to golden showers (obviously) to crawling around on a leash and collar acting like some animal or other.
I have shined W's boots (is that boot blacking?? by definition I think it is )... I have (and do) make his meals and serve him..... I have cleaned his house ....... I have (and do) make the bed and tidy up...... I have (and do) go where he decides we will go ...... I have bared my ass and taken a beating.. I have spread my legs and been fucked..... BUT all those things fit me....... (and I like to think fit W as well ) I don't feel out of place .. out of the norm doing those things...... it is natural and pleasing to both of us. And for me that is what is important in our BDSM relationship. I have no desire or need to be humiliated or degraded ....... I want and need to be needed and appreciated and valued.
So for those of you who "get" golden showers (in every sense of the word) more power to you !!! But I think I will stick to cleaning the toilet ... rather than being the toilet.
Gee whiz whiz whiz... morningstar could you please explain the picture...teasing laugh! Nine paragraphs into your blog you describe what sounds to me like a 'wife' Everything except "taken a beating" Maybe I'm a slave, without the BDSM perks, but don't know it. Laughing! Oh!holding 'it' while he peed was very erotic for me. But had to restrain the urge to twirl 'it' around. That would have been fun.
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I found this post really interesting, as this was the first kink of mine that I discovered, way before I discovered pain or anything else. It's also the one I'm most cautious talking about, because people seem to have a very visceral reaction to it. For what it's worth, though, I wanted to point out that there isn't necessarily a humiliation aspect to it - there can be, and I enjoy when there is, but for me it is also a stand-alone kink, as in it turns me on without a necessary context of submission or humiliation.
ReplyDeleteLOL @ your last sentence! You and I are on the same boat with this topic, I have never expereinced it, and it would be a big stretch for me to even try...abby
ReplyDelete:-) i cant stop smiling this was the first blog page i read after coming back from a household of not being well.... i am glad i was not a toilet for that week as well ..and it does nothing for me but M.K. likes it on occasions sooooooo
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saffy
Just for the record folks, morningstar and I have only done the Golden Shower thing once..
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"I have no desire or need to be humiliated or degraded ....... I want and need to be needed and appreciated and valued"
ReplyDeleteI agree 100% and feel the same way. That was kind of the point to my post on the incident.... how odd it was that nothing about it felt humiliating or degrading to me. If I got my kicks from humiliation play it would have been a no brainer but I dont and respond to that sort of mind game with either feeling extremely hurt or just plain angry.
See I told ya I must be strange. :)
@Joyce "Maybe I'm a slave, without the BDSM perks"
ReplyDeleteYes, we are! :))