I was cruising around Fetlife yesterday -- and read a piece about being too old for BDSM. The reasons - the so-called Dom gave - were: 1) she wasn't as pretty as the young submissives -- 2) she wouldn't be able to take as much as she aged and 3) she would develop health issues.
The last one reminded me of something someone said to me in the past year -- that I worried him because of my age. WTF!? First of all I would venture a guess I am probably in better shape than he was........ I am most definitely in better shape than when I started in BDSM some 25+ years ago.
As a society we DO put a whole mess of emphasis on age. It bugs me (probably cause I am as old as dirt) I look at the men in the lifestyle and I don't hear anyone telling them they are too old...(despite their health issues and their Viagra and various other peculiarities that come with age)!! what I have learned on Fetlife (and to some degree in real life) is that women can be too old but men are never too old. I really do HATE double standards.
What I do know for a fact is that there are still a whole lot of things I want to experience/try in this lifestyle and I refuse to say "I'm too old for this shit". I am also very glad I have Sir Steve who is young enough to keep up with me -- adventuresome enough to try new things -- and bold enough to push me to be a better version of myself.
agree whole-heartedly ; my Dom is also younger than me, and he prefers older women who come with a lot of advantages ; Its all about attitude in my humble opinion
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