It's simple really

Honestly i don't get it......... the mind set of some supposed submissives.

i have heard some say they don't know what they are into.......... which is ok.... one is not expected to know everything......... but to know NOTHING??? They run around like chickens with their heads chopped off asking, anyone who will listen, to tell them what they want/need/desire. HUH?? WTF??? how am i supposed to know what YOU want/need/desire???

It all seems so damn simple to me... i have this need.. this burning need inside me .. i may not be able to explain it - especially to vanilla folks.. but i can identify the need. It is for pain. i am a masochist. It is that simple.

Over time i have identified i love to serve. i gain great pleasure from making Sir a nice dinner, or entertaining His guests with grace and warmth and welcome.

Over time i have learned there are other ways of inflicting the pain i crave (not just through spankings/whippings and floggings)

Over time i have learned the protocols that please my Sir. (they are not the same protocols that would please another but they are what please MY Sir and that is all that is important to me)

Once upon a time i learned the saying "to thine own self be true" and that is so appropriate for this lifestyle. You have to be YOU.. not some doll that is bent and molded to suit another's tastes. You have to feel it (whatever the IT is for you) inside.......... and then follow your instincts. Yes there will be some bending and molding and shaping so that you and your Dom fit .. like puzzle pieces......... but just like puzzle pieces you can't just jam two pieces together and hope it fits..

And dear god in heaven......... don't come marching into this lifestyle taking whatever is thrown at you.. out of some misguided need to be loved and cherished ..... it doesn't work that way!! Inside of you has to be a tiny seed .. that with nurture and work will grow into something wonderful and beautiful.

It really is that simple.