Saturday, September 03, 2016
There's yet another shit storm going on over on FL. Why oh why do I read these posts??!!
Reader's Digest version
There was a play party in Houston and apparently some people decided to play consent non-consent in front of everyone.
When I read the original post against - I thought that it made perfect sense to me. It sounded like a good test of people's willingness to call in a DM -- or someone in charge.... a couple of people did approach a DM and were told (from what I understand) that it was ok not to worry. I guess they thought the DMs should have stopped it. And got a little bent out of shape when they didn't.
Apparently the whole thing -- as edgy as it was -- was sort of an advertisement for an upcoming educational event on what to do in the event of problems at a play party.
Now of course everyone is on the bandwagon - going on and on about how awful this was -- how disturbing it was.
Now I wasn't there -- and I guess I really shouldn't get bent out of shape ....... but ya know what??? Hands and his wife and I have had a couple of conversations about how "watered down" BDSM is becoming. We seem to be sanitizing everything for fear we might upset someone's sensibilities. Hell everyone who writes anything the least bit 'edgy' on FL now are posting "trigger warnings" at the top -- because god forbid someone might have flash backs to some horrendous ordeal they have been through!
I sit shaking my head. Really??!!! IF I start to read something that makes me uncomfortable I simply close it down and move on. If I see something at a play party that upsets me I move away. What is wrong with people??!!! We are all adults for god's sakes. Why are we not taking responsibility for ourselves?? Why are people expecting everyone else to protect them?? poor lost souls.
I used to try to be involved in this new community. I used to think I had something to offer. But ya know -- not so much anymore. The way I was brought up -- the way I was trained in the lifestyle -- makes me who I am.... for better or worse. And I can't / won't change. I tried that for a bit and it didn't work. I upset folks -- I have alienated folks. That upsets the people pleaser in me. So I will cuddle up in my lil corner of the universe and be happy (very happy) with my life now. And I will let the new generation of kinksters take care of each other -- whatever that looks like.