Tuesday, March 07, 2017
The Ex - a bit of the back story
Yesterday Sugarshack asked me this question:
question : not to bring up old wounds, but since you and SirSteve knew each other years ago with "W" does "W" know about you two ? has he contacted SirSteve at all ? does it even matter if he knows or contacts SirSteve ?
And yesterday I received an email (teasing me I hope) suggesting I stop writing like a love sick teenager.......
So I thought I would kill two birds with one stone (so to speak) get off the love sick teenager kick and give you a little back story from 8 years ago.
8 years ago -- W was seeing other women behind my back -- playing with another woman behind my back and defending her outrageous behaviour towards me. I took my collar off in a fit of anger. I disappeared from the BDSM scene and spent a couple of months licking my wounds.
A dear friend finally convinced me it was time to move out of the shadows and got me to go with him to a play party - where he promised me 'I would meet the hottest woman EVER!' She was "hot" trust me -- but it was her husband that caught my eye...... and it was her husband I played with.... that husband was Sir Steve. Back in the day when I wrote about them I called them the "2 Sirs".
Back then W knew about my involvement with the 2 Sirs -- in fact he showed up at a huge event that we went to -- and stood watching Sir Steve beat me. BUT there was no real interaction between us all -- and certainly the 2 Sirs knew of W but weren't friends with him.
When the marriage between the 2 Sirs ended we all drifted apart. I went back to W because I was alone and missing someone in my life -- and W was familiar and I was sure we would make it work this time.
And that brings us up to September of this year when Sir Steve contacted me on Facebook.
I can't say for sure that W knows about Sir Steve and I -- but I do know he comes here to read -- and he knows my history well enough to put two and two together..... Also enough common friends have commented on our status change both on Facebook and Fetlife that I would be very surprised if W doesn't know by now.
W has not contacted Sir Steve -- I am not sure why he would - to be honest. And I do know for certain that Sir Steve would not be all that patient with W should he contact him. Neither Sir Steve nor myself much care if he knows -- and should we bump into him at an event (which isn't likely as W seems to have stopped attending anything) we would be courteous but nothing more. There's just too much water under the bridge ya know.
When Sir Steve and I were pushing that reset button -- he said something about my going back to W after we parted ways....... something to the effect that he wasn't that surprised. Some days I feel like a slow learner (small smile) -- it took me two readings of the same book to figure out the ending would be the same. Now this 'book' I am reading will have a very different ending....... of that I am sure :)