Tuesday, March 12, 2013

March



Hil said...
What do you think is the most important thing that you will need to change as you make the change from long distance relationship to full time live in both from a kink and vanilla perspective.


If you have read here for any time you know I am not very good with "change".  But "mama didn't raise no fools" either.  So long before we found the house in Kingston - W and I did some serious talking.  

Funny enough the hardest thing for me to tell him was I didn't think I would be able to handle his need for constant noise - radios or televisions or music....... something always going on.  I asked W if I could have a "quiet" room - somewhere I could escape to when the noise got too much for me.  And so I have a little room on the top level of the house that is my "quiet" room.  

There are lots of other things that will be difficult to adjust to /change - BUT we will work them out.  

As for BDSM - I think the hardest thing will be getting back to full D/s mode.  It has been so long since we had "protocols" that - sadly - I have forgotten more then I remember...... and I know that is something that disappoints W more than anything else.  After a week with him (last week) I realize how far I have slipped from the lifestyle we had only on weekends up to this point.  

I would like to ask W to help me......... to re-train me - but I fear he will be discouraged.  So my plan is to follow as many of the protocols that I DO remember - and hope that with time W will see I am serious in doing the D/s again..... that I am very serious in being the best submissive I can be.   

I may not like change - BUT - I do love W and will do anything I have to to make his life easier and happier.

2 comments:

Hermione said...

I'm sure that when W reads his he will recognize your need for his help, and will begin making all sorts of plans to assist you in regaining your submission. Isn't it all about communication?

Hugs,
Hermione

Anonymous said...

"As for BDSM - I think the hardest thing will be getting back to full D/s mode. It has been so long since we had "protocols" that - sadly - I have forgotten more then I remember...... and I know that is something that disappoints W more than anything else. After a week with him (last week) I realize how far I have slipped from the lifestyle we had only on weekends up to this point. "

Maybe instead of seeing this as a sadness, you should both see it as an opportunity. We all know that these rules have to be tweaked to suit the individual couple, but sometimes rules hang around, like a bad smell, the sub doing them simply "because", even when neither of you are getting anything out of it? At this point you both have a blank slate, but you have all the knowledge of yourselves and BDSM to help you, which I think is the most wonderful combination.

See it as an opportunity and go for it! Have FUN with it!! :) (and I do mean fun as enjoying it, rather than fun as not taking it seriously - you can take it seriously and still enjoy it after all).

good luck!

xx