Thursday, June 25, 2009

Pet Peeve......




Ok.. so enough of the self flagellation.. hair shirts and public humiliation.......


my dear friend swan - over on the Heron Clan - left this comment for me yesterday.....
"I was struck by the RED color references in your post, and I wondered what it might mean to be so immersed in a particular color... So I checked, and here's what I found:

Red is the color of fire and blood, so it is associated with energy, war, danger, strength, power, determination as well as passion, desire, and love.

Red is a very emotionally intense color. It enhances human metabolism, increases respiration rate, and raises blood pressure. It has very high visibility, which is why stop signs, stoplights, and fire equipment are usually painted red. In heraldry, red is used to indicate courage. It is a color found in many national flags.

...In advertising, red is often used to evoke erotic feelings (red lips, red nails, red-light districts, 'Lady in Red', etc). Red is widely used to indicate danger (high voltage signs, traffic lights). This color is also commonly associated with energy...

Light red represents joy, sexuality, passion, sensitivity, and love.
Pink signifies romance, love, and friendship. It denotes feminine qualities and passiveness.
Dark red is associated with vigor, willpower, rage, anger, leadership, courage, longing, malice, and wrath."

i will credit her .. and my day in the summer sunshine.. for my desire to move on here on The Journey.......... close the back stage curtains... and come out front stage and get on with "things" :)

(phewwwwwwwwwww aren't you all glad that spasm / hiccup is over??)

While i am on the topic of comments........... and before i get to my Pet Peeve... there are no words to describe the out pouring of support, caring, and virtual hugs that i have received over the last couple of weeks....no words to properly thank you all for your comments and emails. No words to tell you how much they touched my heart.. or how they made me cry.. thank you each and every one of you !!! and please forgive me for not writing to each of you individually - i was just not up to writing........ and when the sky started to clear - well i just didn't know what to say........ (but i am working on that !!)

Ok.. so now... my Pet Peeve........

i really do hate .......... HATE ........ back stabbers.... people who look you in the face and say one thing.. then the minute your back is turned .. say something completely different..

i encounter people like that a lot........... at work mostly.. but yeah in my private life too....

Most of the time i try to let it all run off my back like water off a duck's back....... except for a comment the other day by the infamous "anonymous" who wrote "you have hurt others"........... no name.. no connection... just 4 little words. And it isn't the first time that the infamous "anonymous" has left such comments on my blog... usually i dump 'em....... but this time i left it.. mainly cause i had every intention of touching on it......... ok ok more than touching on it.

Enough already with the sneaking around like a thief in the night...... all of you ... for god's sakes grow a back bone.. stand up and be counted !!! IF i have done something to hurt you.. or if you don't agree with me.. for god's sakes face me and tell me....... stop whining about it behind my back..... leaving inneundos around hoping i might see them or hear them.. Grow a back bone i say !! stand up to me and tell me what you think........ honestly and openly..........

And give me the chance to explain .......... or apologize......... or tell you to go to hell.. but give me a chance.

ok.. getting down off my soap box.. putting it away...from now on.. i will go back to dumping anonymous comments that spew forth hurt and disdain.....be warned !!

Now i am off to work.. 4 more working days till my summer officially begins !!! and then .. with all that time on my hands........who knows.. i might just turn out an installment or two for the Fictional Journey.. find a picture or two for the Photojournal.........

5 comments:

selkie said...

first, don't ya LOVE soapboxes! I do! and yeah, agree with you completely about the whining, snivilling cowards who leave anonymous comments...

second, you do know I'm a REDhead LOL

kaya said...

I saw that comment and I wanted to say something but I didn't want to cause drama in your comments.

You did hurt people. Yourself. Your Sir.

Hurting anyone else who is reading you? No. Not *even* your worry. What you share here, how you share it... that's your gift to us. Nothing more. If someone applied your words and your experiences to their life and it didn't work for them and they got hurt? Well, that was pretty stupid on their part, wasn't it? To try and lay blame at your door for what they chose to feel/do/read into your words? That's pretty freakin' dishonest and cowardly.

But then, what more can you expect from drive-by anons?

Nobody is perfect. Not me, not you, not anybody. That you so bravely detail, with startling honesty, the difficulties that this life brings, is admirable. Not shameful.

And that you get right back up on that horse determined to tackle each problem? You get a gold star. Or, a red one, if you prefer. ;-)

Maybe what "hurt" was them having to face that they gave up where you keep going.

swan said...

Not even going to get into talking about the a******** types. Why give it energy?

As for the "red" business -- I am so glad it rang a bell somewhere. I was awake in the middle of the night, worrying about it, thinking: "I wonder if that made any sense at all, or if it just seemed weird and stupid?" See... we ALL do that thing.

Glad that you are nearing the end of the school year, and that you (and Sir) are back in the game, trying to make it work.

hugs, swan

Anonymous said...

I wonder how you can hurt someone...on a journal? Just ignore the a-holes for there are lots of them in this world!

starla

Jelly said...

I agree with all the previous commenters. This is your blog, your journal of your journey. We read it because we want to, and we all gain something from reading it.

Does it matter if someone choose to get 'hurt' from reading your words when it was not meant for them? That's a bit 'twisty'. We all gain what we want to gain from reading what we read. Do these anonymous people go around reading bronte and tolkien and blake and then complain that these authors hurt them? It doesn't make any sense!!

I'm glad you're getting on with your life. Enjoy summer and I hope you get some really nice sunshine!!!!

Jelly