Wednesday, January 06, 2016

Depression

I read an article on Fetlife this morning about depression in Dominants.  It was very moving............ written by a submissive who was trying very hard to help her Dominant through depression. 

I read that article while I was waiting for a friend to come over for an early coffee (8am). And she didn't show up......... the same way she nearly missed my Open House on the 1st - would have missed it if another friend hadn't texted her and nudged her out of the house and over here.

I read that article and thought about W and some things he has told me since we split - really nothing I hadn't already suspected... months and months ago.

From time to time I suffer from depression - I have even had a breakdown.  So I honestly believe I understand what it means to be depressed.  I won't claim to know what it means to YOU............. but I've been there........ I know something about it.  And I have never made a secret of the fact that from time to time I suffer with depression.

So I struggle with my friend and W (and maybe others) not reaching out to me.. not opening up to me.  Oh I can't fix the depression only YOU can fix your depression..... but I can - and WILL - support you while you fight it.  You only have to ask !!  Don't push people away who care for you - who want to help - who want to be strong so you can be weak - want to offer a shoulder - or a cup of coffee - or an ear - to help you struggle through................. 

yet so often - more often in my experience - people don't want to admit to being depressed - don't want to talk about it.............. 

they really need to learn that being depressed can mean "you have been strong for too long"..............

2 comments:

Blondie said...

Those are very kind words and everyone can use a friend like you.

keth said...

They won't admit to it... because admitting to someone else means that they're also admitting to themselves. And to many people, admitting it exists, also means that Something Has To Be Done about it (caps intentional), which, of course, is often the last thing that you want to do when you're depressed, and which is why being depressed is such a vicious cycle. Its easier, far easier, to lie to yourself and bury your head in the sand, and sometimes, that's not even a conscious decision to do so. This is especially the case in those who are not as alert to their own sense of mental well-being and health as you are.

*Huggggggggsss*