Do you remember playing the game "match up" when you were a kid?? There were all these cards shuffled and placed face down on the table.. and you took turns turning one card over and then another - if they matched you took them off the board and placed them proudly in a pile in front of you. The winner was the one who had the most matched pairs in front of them.
i was thinking yesterday how difficult it is to find a partner in the lifestyle. It can be so much like the match up game from childhood. There are checklists galore to go through with your prospective partner.. matching up the things you like.. the things you don't like... the things you would never ever do. Match - no match - match - match match - no match. And at the end of the process you can have a delightful winning hand where both win..... or a losing hand where there just aren't enough matches to make a relationship.
Ok ok i am simplifying a rather long and tedious process...... and the matches are much more than just the "you like .. i like" sort of things. There are distances to take into consideration, belief systems, compatibility in general. Oh the list is endless.
Even as a child i found the whole game tedious and a bit boring. i never fully understood the process. As an adult i want to skip the process and move right on to meeting...... checking out the prospective partner...... do we click or not??
Yesterday i was reading one of my regular blogs - A View from the Floor - and nodding and agreeing with her thoughts on the word "true"......... and i realized that too has a bearing on the match process.... true slave - true Dominant...... BUT what is true?? is a true slave someone who can refer to themselves in the 3rd person?? who never forgets the Sir/ Ma'am ?? who uses eye restrictions?? who kneels and never grows weary of kneeling?? Is this all another game of match up??? Do we click on the number of protocols we believe in??
ughhhhhhh it makes me weary to think about it all.... match no match...... match.
Aren't we lucky - those of us who have partners - that the match games are over for us?? or was it the match game that you enjoyed the most?? "the mating dance" as i call it...... i guess in a lot of ways i don't have the patience for all those match games...... the fun for me is in the finished product........and the tweaking that comes after the matching......
What say you??