Words to live by.........

“I shall pass through this world but once. Any good therefore that I can do or any kindness that I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.”
― Stephen Grellet



Wouldn't the world be a much better place if EVERYONE lived by that premise

It all boils down to........

I have been navel gazing this week........ It started on Monday (I think it was) and just seemed to keep building and building until this morning .......... 

It started with a comment on FL about DM's (dungeon monitors - and no I don't mean video cams or baby monitors.  I mean people who prance around a play party wearing glow in the dark arm bands full of their own importance, policing how people play).... It continued on to some kids and a couple of families I am dealing with at school ....... and then just to keep the navel gazing challenging - it included people - vanilla acquaintances/friends/ ex-lovers too maybe??- who are on the edges of my life.

Each of these incidents that happened were about people crying "woe's me".  And I didn't get it... I got frustrated by the comments/the people........ It was simple to me......... I couldn't figure out why it wasn't simple to everyone else....... In my mind it all boiled down to........ "if they would JUST take responsibility for themselves - instead of making excuses" ......... but they don't take responsibility, either because they don't want to.. or don't know how.

I am working REAL hard with my kids at school on the subject of "Taking Responsibility" and I think - ok maybe it's more HOPE  - we are making progress.  BUT the adults in my life............... shrug...... not getting very far with them...... 

And it confuses me ....... on the one hand these adults make excuses for everything - and I do mean EVERYTHING - and yet they don't want advise that means they have to face up to their responsibility.  

Example - play parties and DM's....... we don't need strangers policing our scenes we don't !!  We (generic we) have friends we trust - why can't we simply ask friends to police our scenes ??? If we are going to play with someone new - have someone you trust stand and watch ...... If it is a crowd control problem then again - get someone you know to do crowd control....... We don't need "police" prowling around getting up in our business.

Example - adults not taking responsibility - you (generic you) owe a few thousand dollars for services you have received - you can't pay the bill - so you make arrangements to pay it down - then you don't - why are you all hurt and angry and insulted when the services are removed?? Take responsibility for YOUR actions - you didn't keep your end of the deal - so the deal is null and void. Makes sense to me.

Another generic YOU example - you can't let go of the past - can't move on - can't talk about anything but "woe's me" then people are gonna fast lose interest in you and your whining.  Makes sense to me.  If you - generic you - make public accusations to try and shame people into doing something don't be surprised when people (generic people) stand up to you.

Good lord - just TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your actions.......... it's all so damn easy to me.


But as it said at the beginning "The problem is - I don't think like other people".   Guess I am going to have to learn to accept that fact.......... cause trust me I ain't changing any time soon!

Sing along.......

I have kaya to thank for today's blog entry......(well actually so do you... what I had intended to write was boring with a capital "B")

So let's all sing along now............... 

Lucky lucky me!!!!

Just like a halloween spooky story....... last evening i was curled up on the sofa - tv going - playing my games on my laptop... feeling warm and comfy and slightly better health wise.......... 

WHEN........ (insert spooky music here)

miss ashes woke from a sound sleep - ears back - head cocked to one side - listening... I listened too but didn't hear a thing..... she got down and wandered to the edge of the sofa beside me - looking up at me ........ 

WHEN ....... (insert spookier music here)

I heard the front door opening - the alarm announcing "Front Door" and I nearly jumped out of my skin........ 


It was 7:45 pm - and no one should be breaking into the condo at that hour!!!!!

There was a brief moment (that felt a bit like a life time) of silence and then I heard "Don't freak - it's ME" 

Me being W.......... ughh slap that man upside the head!!  He was supposed to be at his train club .... he was not supposed to be breaking into the condo giving me post halloween frights


I figured he had come to check out the sickie .... i figured .... actually now I am not sure what I figured... W announced he had just come to drop something off... 


After my heart started beating again... and we had hugged and kissed (DAMN spreading my germs!!)  He handed me a box....... and said "it is your birthday present AND your Christmas present" ....... 


And I knew immediately what it was...................  

an Ereader - in colour yet !!!  


When I was in hospital last year - eldest daughter always came to visit with hers.... I wasn't all that talkative most days and often dozed off to sleep while she was there... she would pull it out and read till I woke up...... She read on the bus - on the train - anywhere and everywhere.  She sang the praises of an ereader.. light weight - convenient -  I wasn't convinced.  I am a book snob (I think I have confessed that here before) I thought I would miss the feel and smell of a book............ 


BUT the last time W and I were in the States I looked at one of the ereaders - had a salesman do a good sales job - even had a woman in the shop do an even better job of selling me on one....... and I was nearly convinced....... 


BUT ........... it wasn't something I HAD to have...... and so I elected to wait till I had some mad money hanging around - not ear marked for corsets (cheeky grin)


Well W decided no waiting necessary - and he bought one for me!!!
It is in colour - and I spent the rest of the evening ignoring the TV and the computer games - learning how to navigate the Ereader.... By the time I went to bed - I had downloaded two books........ 


Now I just have to figure out how to disguise it as part of work environment so I can read and play on it (still got all sorts of things to figure out ) 


I am a very lucky me...... very luck indeed!!!!

Tiresome Tuesday

About 4 yesterday afternoon I totally gave up getting anything done at work and brought my sore achy body home.... with plans to spend today nursing myself back to health.
 
This morning I dragged myself off to the hair dresser to get my hair cut and decided it is way past time to find a new hair dresser.  This woman can NOT get it through her head that I don't want short and puffy... I want angles and hair that will move.  Thank god it will grow.

Then I worked on the accounting program and lo and behold I think (think being the operative word) that I might just have mastered it.  Don't cheer and applaud just yet - I probably haven't.

I have decided that I will probably live....... whatever the hell this bug is.. it isn't getting any worse (not much better either - but I haven't died and that's always a good sign). Tomorrow I will return to work....... and hopefully get some work accomplished.

Oh yeah.......... one last thing about Halloween..... a picture of me doing my best imitation of The Cat in The Hat....... with Thing 1 (my hat is as limp as I was feeling)