Yeah yeah - I am doing a blog on 'R.I.S.K.' and 'Safe Sane and Consensual ' AGAIN!! But stay with me here folks - there is point............
Two things contributed to my feeling the need to address this topic (once again). There is a new blog out there........ "Ties that Bind Us" - clever title ......... Anyway for her first blog entry she defined "Safe Sane and Consensual" and then defined "R.I.S.K." She stuck with the party line.......... as did I for a many years.
The other thing that prompted me to write about this ........ AGAIN......... was Sunday's brunch and a discussion we had about our "beginnings". We talked about tight breast bondage - and needles in the breasts and nails in the breasts. We all knew in our heads there was some risk to this practice............. but we didn't care ......... or didn't want to think about it. (I think that is more to the point - at the time we didn't want to think long term - we were caught up in the moment - in the excitement - and didn't think past the next needle)
There are no medical studies done on the long term effects of some of what we do........ hell do you know anyone who would volunteer to be followed ?? Do you know any doctor who would want to apply for a government grant to study the effects extreme BDSM has on one's health in the long term??? AND even if there was such a study AND even if we all knew the results ....... would any newbie listen???
The one thing that came to light on Sunday - there were 3 women there (including myself) two of them had been submissives to Sadists early on in their BDSM days. Both had had extreme breast torture. AND both of them today have lumps and masses in their breasts (as do I) .......... we cannot prove that those lumps were caused by the extreme torture - but we can't help but wonder.
The other thing I have noticed - recently - though it has probably been going on for years - is more and more submissives are wearing medium to BIG butt plugs 24/7. They openly admit it hurts almost constantly - they talk about fissures and sores and being stretched.
When I was first starting out in the lifestyle...... I had a strict training........ and the one thing that was emphasized to me ....over and over ad nauseum .. was that ...... clamps should never be left on a body part for more than 30 minutes MAXIMUM - that blood flow was being cut to that body part ....... which is never a good thing. 30 minutes on.......... at least an hour off........ then one could reclamp. Butt plugs should never be worn day after day........ muscles would stretch and eventually not be able to "remember" to retract. It was pointed out to me how many gay males landed up in doctor's office with rectums stretched beyond human limits........ and the subsequent problems that come from that. And that breast tissue (same as scrotum) was a delicate lace work of tissue and muscle and nerves that could be easily damaged.
I didn't 'listen' I went for the extremes. And now some 20 years later I can't help but wonder what permanent damage has been done to my body. I wish the younger newbies and the not so young newbies would pay attention......... because one day the damage will be done ......... and it will be too late.