Rocky Start

As per the agreement the lil one was with her mother last week -- the exchange day -- according to the agreement was ' after lunch on Friday.

At 11:55 on Friday the lil one showed up at our trailer.. I asked 'have you had lunch?' the response "no"  Mother was standing at the bottom of our deck.  I looked at her and said "I was told she would be fed lunch before the exchange" She argued but did take the lil one home to feed her.......... then the shit hit the fan........
Mother's sister came over demanding to know what the arrangement was - I said "it's none of your business and it's none of my business -- it's between mother and father"

Gold star for me -- I didn't get stressed or anxious....... I felt I handled it perfectly.... keeping myself neutral.

However the lil one did come crying to me about 'Daddy's email to mommy and how daddy broke the rules'..... I got her quietened down in less than 5 minutes and sent her off to play with her friend.

When Sir Steve got home he wrote an AMAZING email to the mother - sending her a copy of the original email that clearly stipulated after lunch on Friday....... he broke it down even more saying " after she has been fed lunch on Friday at 1:00pm"   AND he added that involving a 5 year old in any problems 'they' might have was unacceptable and would stop immediately -- AND -- that he would be sending a copy of the email to his lawyer (which probably means we won't hear from them again for the summer though they will walk around looking like bears with thorns in their paws for the summer )

(oh and for the record email contact only was stipulated by the court in March and the no sister involvement was also mandated by the court)

The rest of the weekend went off without a hitch and now Monday morning we are gearing up for a fun activity filled week together......... 

Summer time and the living is easy.............. which is a very good thing!

Liars

I have always had an uncanny ability to see through (most) people's lies.  I don't know how or why -- some folks claim it is a Scorpio trait -- me?? I shrug and accept it.

When I first came back into Sir Steve's life --  I was pretty quiet when his friends were around -- just getting a feel for them -- classifying them -- deciding if I could accept them as my friends (I don't make friends easily)

Most were delegated to the 'I can take 'em or leave 'em' category.  

BUT there were 2 people -- one a very close friend of his ex wife and the other the sister of his ex wife.  Sir Steve told me he trusted them -- they would NEVER repeat things we said to the family.

BLEEEEEEEP !  W R O N G!

The first time I met the ex wife's friend I voiced my opinion to Sir Steve -- she loved gossip and she loved spreading gossip ........... to prove my point we told her something that wasn't true and waited for the blow back.  It came.... my point was proven.

The sister was another story..... always claiming to have our backs -- always so sympathetic... always bad mouthing her sister and mother.  She was good!  She even won me over........

Until one day in COURT - something I had told her in privacy came back to bite us on the ass.

How many ways can you block someone?? that's what I did.

What gets me this summer is how the sister still wanders over asking indirect questions about our life -- about the lil one -- about stuff in general.  AND she isn't getting any information!  It's amazing how little we see her this summer....... 

She just popped over to our trailer -- querying me about whether Sir Steve is working -- when he'll be home etc.  I gave her vague none of your business answers....... 

I don't do well with liars and gossips.............. one day my lid might just blow......... until then................

 

Hell

The ex came yesterday with her mother and father and moved all her crap -- and more -- out of the house.  At one point I wondered out loud if they intended to take the lil one's bed 


Words absolutely fail me ........ I have never in my life encountered such vindictive mean people.

There has to be -- HAS TO BE -- a special place in hell for people like them....... 

Building and building.....

I am sure you are all a little tired of hearing about Sir Steve's ex's and their petty vindictiveness ......... but this is my safe place to spew out my hurt ... my confusion.... and my anger.

The latest chapter in butt hurt  attempts at public humiliation happened this weekend.

The lil one's birthday is next Sunday.  (remember the mother has visitation on weekends).  Sir Steve and I talked about this birthday -- and I said that seeing as she will get gifts from everyone (gifts upon gifts) that I would like to give her a kid's party as my gift.

We talked to the lil one and she was very excited and asked if she could have a "Unicorn Party" ....... absolutely!  So I started to plan a Unicorn party for her and 4 of her lil friends -- at the trailer next Saturday.  Sir Steve and I decided to have it on a Saturday so the ex's could have her on her actual birthday and not get too bent out of shape.

Well !!!  Mother threw a hissy fit when she was told that it was for kids only and no she wasn't invited.  After all she had her on the actual day!  The Grandfather came storming over to have it explained to him that they (the grandparents and mother were not invited to the kids party) The grandmother took it to facebook accusing us of assuming they had plans for the child's birthday when they didn't and were now not allowing them to join US for her party.

W T F 

First -- how can you not plan some sort of celebration for your -- Y O U R - child's 5th birthday??!!

Second -- after being hurtful and vindictive towards us all summer and spreading gossip about us -- and doing everything in your power to poison the child against us -- WHY would they think they would be invited??!  This takes crazy to a special level in my books.

I am not equipped to deal with this level of 'crazy'