There is another "safety" device in place for those that are interested in learning the BDSM ways....... and that is classes. Yeah really .. people actually offer and take classes in everything from how to flog to how to cut to how to play with fire.
i have always had a little problem with people teaching others.......... maybe and probably because i am a teacher... but i wonder what made these people experts on the subject.. who trained them?? did they learn off the net? did they learn by trial and error?? what makes them a teacher of said subject??
i know that bit sounded a tad disdainful and i most certainly don't mean to put anyone down who tries to educate the newbies.. and the lurkers and the wannabes and anyone else interested... heaven's !! Sir and i have taken a course or two in our time together... it's just i have always wondered who decides who is teacher/Master or whatever in a community that still hides in the shadows???
However that isn't really what i want to discuss this morning....... BUT it is commonly taught in BDSM 101 .. that when one is having a session with a submissive the first rule is.. WARM UP. It is clearly declared a big NO ! NO! if you just tie up the submissive and go at her (or him) with no warm up. that is definitely a foul - not nice - play fair. Another biggy is a thing called wrap around... that is when the whip or the flogger happens to wrap around the body catching unsuspecting body parts in the front of the body....... another big NO NO!! another foul!! not nice - play fair.
Now here is my reality......... Sir plays any way He sees fit. Last night is a good case in point. We hadn't played hard for a very long time.. i was more than a little nervous about facing the wall of toys and the cross... Sir wasn't the least bit worried (hell why should He have been - He wasn't gonna be on the receiving end!!) Now it would have been nice if Sir had taken that class on warm ups being a necessity.. but i do believe He skipped that class........ cause last night the first toy Sir took down off the wall - right after He strung me up to the cross - was the "sting of a 1000 bees" flogger.
AND trust me folks when i say i was hopping from foot to foot crying (more like blubbering) and praying to the BDSM gods that He would tire of that toy pretty damn fast !!! He didn't but i prayed!) There was the whip that wrapped around my hip and caught my pretty pink bits rather nastily.. and the wooden sword thingy that left me with an ass that was as hard as the wood that sword was made out of.......
AND all of this was done on an ass that the night before Sir had cut up with His new knives...
Can i say OUCH??!!!! twice over.
But you know what folks?? Sir played with me hard for over an hour.. He fucked me and didn't let me cum.. and played some more.... and finally i was allowed to cum and He took me down off the cross and i was so far out there floating around with my fairies that i don't remember much of anything till this morning. Am i a happy lil subbie?? You betcha !! did i scream foul?? nope!! Was this exactly what i wanted and needed despite all those expert's warnings and teachings?? You betcha !!!
The point i think i am trying to make is......... that there is a lot of 'stuff' on the net about how to play.. how to be a BDSMer...... how to do it all safely.. SSC or R.A.C.K. or whatever else you wanna call it... but the truth of the matter is.......... it is only important that what happens between you and your partner is what you both want to have happen........... and when the toys are back on the wall..and the ropes and chains put to bed for the night and the lights are turned off..that your Dom takes you in His arms.. holds you tight.. whispers in your ear .. kisses your hair softly and brings you back down to earth with a soft bump on lots of fairy dust.......
and for those keeping track - i stopped at day 5 - weekends will be my free time.. monday will be day 6