There was some discussion in the comment section. Those comments have been rattling around in this brain of mine ever since.
CG made the best comment -- Hands knows how to treat us during the day and how to treat us when the lights go out! He respects us both.. and that is the most important thing.
Many years ago I sat in on a sex ed class at school. The kids were all giggly and embarrassed. The school nurse wrote 3 letters on the blackboard -- S. E. X. And then she said "it is just a word like any other word". Good girl/bad girl or princess/slut are just words. Nothing more nothing less. I always put too much emphasis on words -- especially 'slut'.
Hands is teaching me to be free -- to explore and live and be joyful in that living. My sexuality hasn't changed -- but how I see it has.
And that is a very good thing!