Monday, August 29, 2016

The Bond Builds




Hands and his wife came for dinner on Saturday.  And it was a calmer dinner (small smile)  I didn't greet them at the door in a panic because dinner wasn't cooking -- no this time everything was ready and I was calm.

It may just be me -- but it felt like his wife and I worked together to serve him -- to see to his needs and that pleased me so much -- it felt like she and I meshed ya know??  I even asked her for help in the kitchen -- which is pretty rare for me -- again it just felt right to have her by my side - giggling - and preparing - serving him together.

But the most emotional part of the evening for me -- the most symbolic part of the evening - was when she and I were sitting on either side of him at his feet.  We both had our hand resting on his thighs -- and her hand moved inches towards mine and took it -- and we sat -- the 3 of us -- chatting while she held my hand.  

IF I close my eyes and picture that moment --
our hands joined, resting on his lap -- a circle of love (I like to think in my mushy emotional way)

And when I glanced up at Hands - his eyes were heavy lidded watching us -- and he had this small smile on his face.

I know though -- we still have a way to go to forming a tight trusting dynamic.... and I KNOW only time will build that dynamic - but I have a message to his wife... 
'I know what was -- I know the horror, the pain --  and I will NEVER (god forbid) do anything to hurt you...... I only want to add positive good things ("do no harm")  to this dynamic --

AND I know it will take time -- I have all the time in the world

 

 


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Day 5 of the Photo Challenge

  
 

4 comments:

  1. I'm really glad to hear that your dinner went well. I'm always one of your fans who regularly visits your website. And always glad to hear whenever you're doing well.

    I have a few questions since I'm very new to the lifestyle. Please don't think wrong because I really don't know the lifestyle etiquettes and I've never been to any of the events either. Here are some of my questions :
    1). Isn't Hands supposed to ask his wife to help you in the kitchen ?
    2). Don't you think you may be stronger than who you think you are as in role-wise ? For example , you keep calm and you can control the situation etc ?

    Hope to hear from you . Thank you very much .

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  2. Lilac

    I would be delighted to answer your questions -- but would you please explain #2 I am not sure what you mean

    "Don't you think you may be stronger than who you think you are as in role-wise ? For example , you keep calm and you can control the situation etc"

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  3. Hi Morningstar ,

    Thank you for the reply . Yes, my question meant this :
    "Have you ever thought you may be somewhat dominant ?"


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  4. Lilac

    Thank you for clarifying -- I am gonna take a day or so to think about my answer -- and as I know it is gonna be a long one (small smile) I will put it up as a post :)

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