Monday, July 08, 2013
In My World
I have never hidden the fact that I tend to see the world through "rose coloured glasses" . Unfortunately those glasses tend to land me in a whole mess of trouble some times.
I am retired. I decided that I could now invest a whole lot more of my time in the BDSM community here in Kingston. (if they needed me of course) Sometime around Christmas at a local munch - I put out feelers to see if anyone would be interested in a submissive support group. I had run one in Montreal - and it had been quite successful if I do say so myself.
To my surprise it didn't take much work on my part to get folks signing up for this group in Kingston. Oh I had my nay sayers - Doms who made no bones about my not being allowed to organise this group under the umbrella of their group.
"Their group" - this is a situation that boggles my mind. In a small town they have not one BDSM group - but 3 !! and most do not mix / cross the lines from one group to another. And of course there is this huge competition between groups - who has the best education program - who has the best munches - who has the play parties !!! (rolling eyes) Of course those boundaries never stopped W or myself. If we felt like going to a munch - we didn't much care whose munch it was - we went!
So when I mentioned this sub group.. I had the nay sayers but I also had some Doms pressuring me to start this group - and IF I would like I could start it under the umbrella of their group. I declined each offer. This group I wanted to start would be non-partisan so that all submissives/slaves/bottoms would feel welcome!! I believe in inclusion not exclusion!
I have officially been living here for one week. While I was commuting we held two sub group meetings - which was difficult for me to organize and show much enthusiasm for.. but hell we got it done! Now I am planning the next meeting for next Saturday. In this past week as a resident of Kingston I have had 2 submissives approach me and suggest they would like to attend the meeting - BUT - they feel they might not be welcome because of their past/present affiliation, UGH!! I took a stand and said if they wished to come to the meeting - and they were coming for the support and camaraderie of a like minded group then they were most welcome.
In My World exclusion just doesn't exist. In My World!
I thought I had things handled and under control - when this weekend I received a message from a Dom on Fetlife saying she might attend the sub meeting. HUH??!! She claims once upon a time she used to be a slave and she could offer a lot to the group. (got much of an ego??) I politely told her that no she couldn't come - her sub - who does attend - is more than welcome - but Doms are not allowed. Simple rule - at least it seems a simple rule In My World!
But now I am looking over the top of my rose coloured glasses and am wondering if this Dom wants to take credit for the sub group - it fits very nicely into her education project............ oh dear god............ go away - just go away. I don't want or need the drama or politics. It has occurred to me that IF I want to keep this group free from the drama and politics of this small town I AM going to have to take a stand...........gonna need to put my rose coloured glasses down - step out of my comfort zone - my world and face the real world... the nasty ego driven world.
Give me strength!