Or is it???
I am hoping all of you who read yesterday's blog entry got the point I was trying to make - "things" that you work for become things you value and treasure.
Today I want to explore that premise in regards to human beings. How often have I seen submissives chasing after one Dom or another......... throwing themselves at the Dom's feet...... offering themselves up for free. I get it - trust me I do!! - they have discovered this submissive side of themselves and are in a frenzy to have it all - YESTERDAY.
They want to submit - to kneel - to have someone else make all the decisions - they just want to turn everything over and live in some idealistic world.
And oh how many "Masters" leap at the chance to collar these door mat subbies. These slaves who value themselves so low that free is top dollar. These Masters drain the life out of the submissive - and then when she is empty they toss them aside and move on to the next whimpering/simpering subbie.
Or on the other hand - how often do we hear of submissives who complain their Master is abusive - not caring enough - not loving enough and they whip off their collar and throw themselves at the next Master.
Wash rinse and repeat - over and over and over again ad nauseum.
What submissives have to learn is to value themselves. To see themselves as strong worthy women. They have to look hard - audition even - Masters until they find the right combination of love, caring, and cruelty. A really good Master will enjoy the challenge of a strong submissive - of watching the defiance dim in your eyes with each stroke of the whip - with each knot of a rope - until He has truly earned your submission.
You must be willing to set your price high - to be able to earn the right Master - one filled with just the right amount of caring, love, trust, respect and honour.
And it's not just submissives - but women in general - who feel the need - the desperation for a male in their lives and settle for much less than they deserve. They set their value - their price way too low. And happiness always seems to allude them.
We need to set our price high - so that the person who comes to claim us will remember our worth and hold us close - worth the wait and the challenge - a remarkable prize!