Sunday, June 12, 2011

Outsider




Sometimes I feel like I don't "get it" ... that somehow or other I got to this ripe ole age without picking up some of the necessary life skills.  

Sometimes I feel like an outsider looking in (hell a lot of the time!)


There's a whole mess of stuff I just don't get........ but this morning teasing tops the list.


Teasing seems to me like a form of bullying... a form of humiliation... a nasty game that children play ......... and more than a handful of adults.  And I don't get it.


I don't understand what the teasers get out of teasing....... does it make them feel powerful??? does it make them feel good about themselves???  AND the 'teasees' how do they feel??? I am not sure....... cause if someone teases me relentlessly I am gonna curl up like a cobra and eventually I am gonna strike back - I will not tease in retaliation... I will strike and bite and it will sting and there will be no doubt someone has crossed the line. 


Teasing makes me feel VERY uncomfortable - even if it is not directed at me.  Teasing makes me throw up some walls around me.  Teasing makes me pull back - go quiet - watch - and get a knot in my stomach.  Teasing can and does make me stand up and leave....... even temporarily ...... find somewhere to hide ... to uncurl my cobra stance.. to take some deep breaths .... to settle my inner self.


I do not think that teasing is an acceptable form of social interaction.  I don't understand why so many accept teasing as a socially acceptable form of interaction.  I don't understand why I feel like I am left alone to feel lost and hurt and scared.... cause teasing does all those things to me.  


Last evening there was a whole mess of teasing going on during the dinner party.... it started off slow and started to grow...... and repeat... and repeat again... I sat watching it going on around me like some film noir.  Everyone else seemed (seemed being the operative word) to enjoy it - or tolerate it.  I couldn't do either.  


I just keep going back to teasing being a nasty form of bullying and humiliation.  I don't understand it... I doubt I ever will.  I do know that I will work harder to avoid situations and people that thrive on teasing.  Teasing upsets my center - upsets my peace of mind - upsets me - pointe finale.

5 comments:

sub-kitten said...

Hello there. I'm sorry your dinner party was spoiled by the teasing. I hope you won't have to endure such situations. I'm a great believer in avoiding whatever or whover upsets one's centres at all costs! all the best x

swan said...

It sounds icky. Do you sometimes feel like things are just getting "nastier" in our interactions with one another? What is that all about?

hugs, swan

SPANKEDHORTIC II said...

I have another word for teasers, it begins with "A" and ends in "holes". As Edmund Burke said "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing". I hope that we live in more enlightened times and can replace the word "men" with "people".

Prefectdt

Sir said...

I am so sorry that I couldn't keep My mouth shut. Also I SHOULD have known how morningstar would have felt.

I am just an old dog that can't be taught new tricks... I should be sent to the pound.

I really don't know why she still puts up with Me other than I do come in handy fixing things..

I am sorry to those and morningstar for hurting them, something that wasn't on My mind.

Warren

Whitesnake said...

It seems ta me that it is a need for attention thing or a power thing......either way it is a form of bullying. Sadly sometimes people don't know they are doing it...........