Or........ believing the hype......
Ever since I came to the realization that BDSM existed... I heard (and yeah believed) the philosophy (maybe more like hype) that the Dom/Top is always right. In fact there is a joke about rule books... Rule #1 the Dom is always right. Rule #2 refer to Rule #1
Since March I have to come to realize that Doms/Tops do not walk on water ... they aren't always right... sometimes they don't even come close.
They are human.... with all the pitfalls / weaknesses / temptations of being human.
I have heard it all.. or nearly all....... and watched as Doms/Tops have "fallen from grace" had to eat their words, had to back pedal and rethink/re-evaluate their positions.
So where does that leave the submissive who has turned over / given up / immersed themselves totally and completely to this power exchange??
Or what happens to the submissive/bottom who simply believed all the hype and lived to learn that it was mostly all smoke and mirrors??
I am not saying this is a bad thing!! I am not saying that Doms/Tops aren't allowed to make mistakes.... change direction... stumble and fall.
I just think one should be aware that Doms/Tops are not all knowing... walk on water "gods".
I for one am reading profiles/ listening to discussions and taking it all with a grain of salt. Don't tell me you are doing this for joy of BDSM.. when you really are looking for a good bed fellow.. or looking to climb to the top of the popularity charts.. or because you just want to make a name for yourself. I hear the words.. and can't help but wonder what is really behind the hype??
I have always maintained.... that the submissive had better be strong.. had better be aware of the dangers (both physical and emotional) because the bottom line is...... no one can be responsible for you - except for YOU! It hasn't earned me any brownie points.. it has even (possibly) lost me some play partners/possible new Doms... shrug... I won't apologize for making sure I am safe - emotionally and physically. Or for believing we are all human......
But then that's just my addled opinion!