Friday, February 12, 2010

Long Day

It was a long day............ emotionally long and physically long. Thank the gods i will be leaving in a few minutes to drive to Sir....... i really could use some sanity in my life right about now................

This morning i was told about an incident that happened last evening between a step father and his two daughters....... the whole thing turned my stomach.

Back in November this man came raging into my office because i did not "force" his youngest daughter to eat her lunch. He leaned over my desk - getting into my space - threatening attitude. i told him to "back off AND back down". He did. He told me - in way of an apology i guess - that he had anger management issues. i have been "lucky" enough to witness a couple of episodes of this anger management problem.

But last night's was the worst. He went after his five year old daughter. (all over her not wanting to come to school in the morning) Some of the garbage he spewed at her was ........... "I am going to put my foot up your ass............ I am gonna put you in a 'home' and you'll never see your mother again........ if I have another heart attack I am going to take you and your sister with me"

This morning i tried to get the powers that be in my school to act on this...........no one seemed to want to do anything....... filing the report under a stack of papers. i kinda shrugged.. there is only so much i can do. But right around the time of the bell i saw a psych worker i knew from my old school. i told her what had been going on........ gave her MY copy of the incident - hell i gave her the whole file. She asked me to come back early .............. i did.......... and the next 2 hours were spent on the phone with DYP (youth protection department).

The long and the short of it is........ it isn't a priority problem. Neither child is in imminent danger. They are not being sexually abused - and as far as we know they are not being beaten. No marks to show ..........so............. no immediate action.

They did promise they would do a home visit when they get time. .......... when they get time.

i understand.. i really do.. they have much more pressing problems........ with children who do have marks................ that show. And that is what is bugging me... my kiddies have marks too.. on their souls ........ and those marks don't show... so they go on a waiting list...........

i can only hope and pray that the waiting list is short............ and that step father's anger management problem doesn't explode before the waiting list shortens......

It was a long day............. a very long day.

2 comments:

Buffalo said...

It is a sad thing for everyone concerned. It is entirely possible the man doesn't realize how adversely he affects his children.

anna said...

This post was absolutely heartbreaking. I am so sorry for all of those children who are not a priority because emotional/psychological abuse doesn't leave physical scars. The scars on their souls are just as damaging.

And I'm so sorry that you have to see this regularly and feel helpless about it. Your strength is admirable.

I hope your Sir takes good care of your soul this weekend. I think you could use a little extra care.