Monday, April 27, 2009

Cages

please note: the next series of entries are my opinion.... got it?? MY OPINION...... on the reality of this lifestyle versus the fiction.......... the safe versus the unsafe.. the process of arriving at where Sir and i are..........



Once upon a time everything i read (specifically on the net) involved subbies being caged. It seemed very hot to me.. to be thrown into a cage - locked into a cage and left there ... to stew in one's own juices so to speak.

Or a box........ there was talk of Dominants building boxes that would hold their submissive... a BOX !! wow.. that sounded nearly perfect to me.

Then one night Sir took me to a play party and there was quite an elaborate set up of cages..... One standing up right that would hold 2 submissives standing comfortably - and just behind it and attached to it were two cages horizontally placed that would hold one submissive each - in a prone position - a cage bunk bed so to speak.

Sir placed me in the upright cage. He fastened nipple clamps to my nipples - threading the chain through the bars so that i could not move. It was all rather exciting. i could see everything that was going on.. and folks would stop by the cage and examine my nipple clamps.. look at me.. make fun of me - much like i am sure humans taunt animals in the zoo.

But the reality of the situation was... not everyone plays by the 'look don't touch rule' (other Dominant's submissives i mean) A Dominant came up behind me... and with no warning or by your leave - zapped me with an electric fly swatter......... that made me scream bloody murder and left me with a small burn mark on my ass.

Despite that experience... i was more convinced i would like a cage at home...or a box. Safe at home !!!

In one experiment.. Sir had me clean out the floor of the cupboard in the bedroom and threw in a dog bed.. and a blanket.... and had me sleep in there. i slept in there for a number of weeks when Sir was visiting.......... but something was lacking. There wasn't a whole lot of excitement being put in the cupboard to sleep.... and then some mornings i had great difficulty straightening up again.. crawling out on my hands and knees and my knees screaming at me. One night i had a nightmare and landed up pushing open the door sobbing.......... So sleeping in the cupboard slowly disappeared.

The cage - after the cupboard experience - and after some thought and time - didn't hold it's appeal either. After all - what had been fun was being caged like an animal at the zoo... being caged in the house - alone with Sir - didn't hold the same appeal. It isn't a very interactive scene.... me curled up in a cage.. with Sir trying to find something to do to pass the time.

So the cage idea was put away - to collect dust and cobwebs like so many tried and failed experiments in BDSM.

But Sir did find something to replace the ideas........ bondage. Every once in a while He will tie me up .. usually in the basement .. to the hooks in the wall.. and leave me..... Once Sir even ran to the hardware store leaving me bound and immobile. That was a bit scary - all the "things that could happen" ran through my head. Obviously nothing much happened and Sir was back in quick order. It can't be much fun for a responsible Dominant to leave their submissive helpless .. tied up.. knowing all the things that could conceivably go wrong !

Now Sir will tie me occasionally .. beat my ass.. and leave me to hang .. while He goes to watch some TV or get a drink........ but nothing terribly dangerous or life threatening. Dominants that are so cavalier as to say " I can always find another subbie" and mean it - well they worry me.. a lot !!! Thank you very much .. i prefer a Dominant who worries just a little bit about the consequences of their actions...... and prefers their subbie in one piece - a functioning valuable addition to the relationship.

And that dear readers is why there is no cage in this house.. or box. It seemed to Sir and i - that a cage - the isolation and danger of one - just wasn't worth the risks. It was fun to dream about it .. to fantasize about it... BUT ... the purpose of living this lifestyle 24/7 was to find a method to incorporate BDSM into reality - not the other way around.


9 comments:

Anonymous said...

bravo! do you mind if i post this to my article page on the Yes Master Resource site?

selkie said...

being claustrophobic, rather badly, a cage or box is NOT something I have fantacized about ... bondage however I LOVE ... and this is an excellent blog - it clearly shows the difference between reality and fantasy ...

taiah said...

I couldn't handle a box or something similar it would make me nuts. What my Owner and I do is to collar me and attach me to the headboard every night at bedtime. He will release me during the night as necessary... or not. :)

CLoud said...

Now I thought th eidea of acage was to expose the slave to stares and perhaps touches bythe spectators? A box i agree with is just no fun because it limits the display of the slave and radom touches. As for unwanted touching well we both know in this day and age entiquet has all but disappeared perhaps should you try the public caging once more a sign might be in order or have your Sir stand by the cage with a big stick. Of course that takes away the idea from solitary exhibit of a nked slave.

Buffalo said...

And yet we all often live in cages of our own making.

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littleone said...

Anonymous #1... yes of course you may post this to your site.. i am honoured that you think it is good enough...

all i ask is that you give me credit.. :)

morningstar (owned by Warren)

littleone said...

Anonymous #2 - as i indicated in my post.. boxes and cages are just not my thing....... but thanks for sharing the pics..

morningstar (owned by Warren)

anna said...

I've only had one experience in a cage and I enjoyed it. However, I don't think it would be something I would enjoy long term or on a regular basis.

The safety issues could easily be addressed, but the other issues you mentioned make it clear that this simply isn't something that works for you and your Sir... and the wonderful thing is that you both know that and move on to what DOES work.