Friday, January 30, 2009

Routines..

Routines are important to me... like my morning coffee.. always made fresh first thing when i wake up... and i bring it up here to my office to read the posts i missed the night before.. to sip while i write my private journal to Sir.. and take big gulps of it while i write my blog entry for the day (trying to get it finished before it goes cold - i HATE cold coffee)

i don't know when routines became such an important part of my life.. but they are... from when i wake up in the morning until i go to bed...

i make the bed before i shower.. i lay my clothes out with my towel wrapped around me.. dripping from the shower.. then scoot back to the bathroom and dry and powder - add crap to my limp hair... then dress.. then back to the bathroom to put on my makeup and then finally blow dry my hair - just before i scoot downstairs and out the door to work........

i pick up a coffee going in to school (there is Tim Horton's right across the street) and i always stop in the main office to pick up mail, check in with Mrs. F our new secretary, then finally continue my way down the hallway to my lil office ............ turn on the pc.. pick up the phone messages.. pick up the emails.. slurp my coffee without even noticing... and then off to check on "my" kiddies before getting down to the day's work.......

Late afternoon it is almost the reverse.. i make my way back down the hallway.. check in with Mrs. F .. say good night and head out into the cold.. to my lil red honda.. and home........

Once home there are more routines.. greeting the katlets... emptying my case.. sometimes even making another coffee.. back upstairs to the pc.. text Sir i am home.. and then unwind by reading my blogs.. catching up on everyone's day........

Then most of the time i do chores around the house while supper cooks.. feed the katlets.. but whatever i am doing .. it always stops at 7:30 when the katlets are put to bed (yes yes i actually put them to bed in the basement .. and close the door - to ensure i have a good night's sleep !! my male loves to play around 3 am) .......... by 8:00 i am on messenger chatting with Sir.. and by 9 i am in my bath.. 9:30 in bed.. 9:32 i am asleep..............

Boring eh?????????

There used to be weekend routines too.. with Sir.. like Friday night He would find something - be it needles or a spanking or clamps .. to refocus my attention from work to home.. to Him.... to help release the tension or stress from the week........ sometimes i would cry... pent up emotions finally finding their release....... sometimes i would laugh and be bratty...

Saturday's there was always at least one session...... and if we were going out shopping Sir would find something to keep me focused.. usually a rope harness to wear under my clothes.. usually there was one BIG session .. where i would meet with my fairies and dance and play ...

Sunday's were always rest days.. when i would do the laundry and serve Sir .. and snuggle up and watch some TV.. and just chill out......

Usually those weekend routines would recharge my batteries.. realign my thinking.. ground me.. and prepare me to face the next week's challenges head on.. knowing there was more to life than weekly routines.......

Maybe all those routines aren't good for me.. maybe they are what make me hate change.. maybe it is a good thing when routines change.. when i am made to be more dependent on me .. less dependent on everyone else to get me through a day.. a week.. a month.......

OR

Maybe

it is just the mid January blah's........ and the routines will return.. and life will be 'normal' again........ once January is finished...... and we head into boring depressing wintry February.............


4 comments:

selkie said...

I think most people find comfort and security in their 'rituals' - for that in essence is what routines are. But I also feel it is important to shake things up regularly - not necessarily earthquake shake, but gently. Otherwise we run the risk of routine and ritual slipping into rut - and what happens then, is that we become uncomfortable, anxious and irritable when things DO change - which they always DO.

Perhaps it is living with a number of OCD people - whose 'routines' can, if not watched, become pathologically unhealthy - I have always tended to 'shake' things for them a bit, make them step outside the path and take a look from another perspective, make them STOP and not allow their rituals to control THEM.

I, like anyone, take comfort in certain routines, but I think it absolutely crucial to understand your motivations in following them and to occasionally STOP and do something different.

Hermione said...

Yes, our lives are centered around routine. It's very comfortable, and in my husband's case, he stresses out when the routine changes. My daily routine sounds a lot like yours. And we have scheduled playtime on the weekend. I like that; it's comforting to know it's always going to happen, barring emergencies.

Hugs,
Hermione

Whitesnake said...

I use ta root in my teens!
Now i am more spontaneous, or maybe it is old age making its way into my life.

Buffalo said...

There are routines and there are ruts that masquerade as routines. One smooths your flow through the day and the other holds you prisoner.