Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Thinking


i was thinking today ............ which Sir says is a bad habit of mine..and usually lands me in hot water......... but it is a hard habit to break - thinking that is... mind you so is me landing in hot water...... but that's another story.........

baby boy asked me for links to blogs/information on playing with more than one Dominant........ separately - not together...... and as much as i don't like a cross over between my Yes Miss blog and here........ the thoughts i had concerning his question were very much submissive thoughts - hence the reason i am posting here......

Now if i haven't lost you all in the confusion that is my thinking.........

Long ago and far away - i used to "bitch" ( yes yes.. i USED to bitch.. past tense ) about how it didn't seem fair to me that Dominants could have more than one submissive.. but submissives were supposed to be happy with just one Dominant...... what if that Dominant didn't do something the subbie wanted - i asked.. what if the subbie's needs weren't being totally met?? i got the same answer.. submissives give their submission to only one Dominant...... the Dominant can dominate more than one submissive.......

Well after an appropriate amount of pouting time.. i moved on.......

Actually when Sir and i were first together.. He had a partner - a female dominant - and so technically i had two Dominants. And oh god it could get confusing real fast !!! i remember one time being at a club in our Nation's Capital.... and was following Sir around like a little puppy dog....... (as i was expected to) and He told me to stay with Ma'am...... but He forgot to tell Ma'am i was staying with Her and She wandered off ...with me trailing after Her......... and i kept wondering what would happen if Sir wanted something - how would i know?? and Ma'am didn't much want or need me trailing after her .. and i felt like a spare part. They quickly remedied the problem by having me on a leash when we went out publically...... when i was to be with Sir.. He held the leash...... when i was to go with Ma'am She held the leash....... and when neither of them wanted me trailing around the leash was stuck in my mouth........ (which also meant i wasn't allowed to talk to anyone)

Anyway...... after a few confusing / stressful months of two Dominants.... Sir and Ma'am parted ways...... and Sir got me in the divorce (cheeky grin)

But that doesn't really answer the question put to me....... two separate Dominants.

And again my brain went wandering off in another direction... and i was thinking about the times that Sir and another Dom would tag team me...... once Sir and 2 female dominants were tag teaming me....... god that was fun !!! But always my allegiance was to Sir first......... even when Sir loaned me out - once or twice - i knew my submission was Sir's no one else's...........

And round and round my thinking goes..... only to come back to the point at hand...... serving two completely separate Dominants........

i don't think i could do it...... honestly i don't. My gift of submission can't be divided.... i can only serve one Master....... others may find it easy to serve many Masters....... but i can't imagine there being a bond...... a trust..... as deep and abiding as there is when one pledges oneself to one other.........

And truthfully i don't believe a Dominant would want to invest as much time or work in a submissive who is also serving another Dominant..... and training?? good god .. what one Dominant wants/desires/demands is probably not what another wants/desires or demands....... how confusing is that???

Many play partners may work for some........ but not for this lil subbie...... i have enough getting into hot water with one Dominant....... i don't need or want more than one ......thank you very much.......

and all this rambling really doesn't answer the question put to me by baby boy..... so if any of you know of blogs or information sites on serving more than one Dominant feel free to post them in my comment section..... i am sure baby boy will appreciate whatever advise any of you can give...........




5 comments:

Buffalo said...

That no talking part ... I kind of liked that concept. And that's all I'm going to say.

chiyu.kiri said...

I was faced with the possibility of a similar situation once, by my own request, but technically speaking I'd have been 'on loan' to the second person involved - though I'd have been living with him.

I don't think it's impossible to achieve, especially if their drives and desires are more or less in line with each other and each one has a clear-cut role. There would definitely have to be a pecking order, though. An alpha and beta, I guess. One would have to have the final say to cut down on conflicts that may arise. Two roosters in the hen house and all that...

As for blogs or sites, I think your view echoes so many that either say it can't be done or they wouldn't want to be a part of it so I don't know of any. I'll be keeping an eye on whatever responses you get, though, because I'm curious about it as well.

drakor66 said...
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drakor66 said...

As you know I have played with several Dominants at the same time. with more than one all it is or can be is playtime not domination. A couple can be dominant over one sub as they are together in life but two distinct Dominants as you say want different desires you can play with them but never feel the most each have to offer for that you must choose or you will be like cool hand Luke digging a hole just to fill it again.

after saying that if you just want to play with many to find out what you like well better be able to communicate your desires very clearly or you might end up on the other side of something wicked not a place for the in experienced .

SeaRabbit said...

Maybe some can... but I know I don't... Even not being plenty happy with the actual situation, the idea of having another Dom never crossed my mind....