Thursday, April 17, 2008

Limits

Back to the questions this morning........

What limits or boundaries do you have when it comes to the relationship/hard limits. Is there anything that you would never do - no matter what?

At the very VERY beginning.... Sir sent me 12 pages of BDSM activities that i had to fill in.. things i loved to do.. things i would love to try.. things i would do but wasn't fussy over .. and things i would never do !!!

Then Sir had His own 'no fly list' which He called the trilogy "health, family, work".

Both of those lists of limits have long since disappeared........ it happens when trust and respect builds..... and when you become 'one'...... the lines between family and health and work fade and disappear......... and His wants become first and foremost in my mind.

BUT there are still some things that make me go ewwwwwwww..

Sir has this thing for looking at pictures on the net of voyeurs or exhibitionists .... women often in naked in public........ vanilla public. i always said i would never EVER do that..... yet there have been times when i have felt daring....... and have flashed Sir. One time was at the Old Fort at Kingston....... we were alone in the dungeon area and i lifted my dress .. Sir snapped a photo for posterity (god only knows where it is now)....... And there was a time recently in one of the big box stores that we were alone in an aisle and Sir lifted my top........flash the security cameras !! BUT i don't think i could / would ever walk down a street topless... or naked......... i keep telling Sir i am sure those pictures He gets are taken in Europe where we all know they are much more forgiving.........

Another limit i have....... is sexual play in public....... even though there is a semi private club we visit where there are nights that one can actually have sexual play....... i can't do it.. i just can't.... i panic - BIG time panic. i am not entirely sure why..... after all i have seen others do it.......... maybe it stems from the time my ex video taped a love making session...... and i saw how i actually looked......... my god !!!!!!!!!!! i can still have nightmares thinking about the facial expressions.. the moans the groans.. the contortions!! Once at this club.... i was on the cross with my ass stuck out taking the whipping..... and Sir moved in close and started to pinch my ass..... well not exactly my ass.. but between the cheeks... and i was doing the subbie jig ....... cause ya know that really hurts !!!...... when i realized how it would look to those watching... and i started to cry and beg Sir to stop......... when He asked me what was wrong and why .. i explained that it would look like He was fucking my ass....... and He said "SO??" but He stopped cause He realized it was playing havoc with my emotions.

There are only a few things i would never ever do....... hard limit........ RED.
Those are ......... no children........ no animals....... nothing that would put my life in danger. (i guess all the others are just wobbling hard limits)

2 comments:

Buffalo said...

"Wobbling hard limits;" I like that description.

SPANKEDHORTIC said...

Put the needles back in the box and stay the hell away from my nipples :-)

But seriously there is one hard limit that has to be there and I wish it didn't. A strapping across the soles of my feet could put me into orbit in minutes. But the feet aren't in the best of condition and I love walking (at least 5km per day normally more) so the feet have to be a no go zone now.

Kids, animals, non consensuals, al absolutely essential no go's.

Prefectdt