Wednesday, June 07, 2006

thoughts on humiliation

i was joking recently at a munch with drakor that he and i should write a handbook for Doms (both male and female) with hints on how to humiliate.. suggestions for potential scenes etc.... it actually came up again in the comment section of his blog..... my Sir daring me (sort of) to start up such a handbook..........

i have subbed beside drakor long enough - through more than one female Dom of his - to notice a strong similarity between their methods. (i am not into humiliation - not really - and so it is something Sir rarely if ever uses) i have noticed that publically anyway.... it would appear that female Dommes tend to use humiliation to play with their male subs. Now it may very well be that is exactly what turns their crank........ BUT i am amazed at the repetition of the scenes.

A couple of years back there was some teasing again at a munch between drakor and a couple of Fem Dommes... They were talking about dressing him up in a pink ballet tutu......

drakor smiled and joked.. but i got the feeling he wasn't all that embarassed by the idea........ i have watched as Fem Dommes have dressed him up in pink frilly panties..

and i have watched him carry himself proudly .. in front of strangers even........ and it nagged at me.... this was a proud man.. and still the pink panty routine did not phase him in the least.

Humiliation is a difficult scene to produce.... i believe the Master/Mistress has to really know their subs/slaves.. they have to listen to them (not just hear them) they have to be able to read between the lines.. they have to find that one weak spot no matter how small and hone in on it...........

i do believe i have found drakor's weak spot ...... for any of his Dommes that read here!!! (devilish grin) and it came from reading his stories.. from reading his body language.. from listening (not just hearing but really listening to him talk and describe things) .. it is not women's underwear or clothing.. it is his male ego..... his submissive/slave ego that is his weak spot. Humiliation for drakor (and i am going out on a bit of limb here) is being used and abused ... it is being ignored when not in use.. it is being simply a "thing"...... of being treated as though he has not much value.... it is gagging him (mentally and physically ) so that he can not offer any opinion.. not use his words to play with the Dommes.... to "mind fuck" Them........ it is being a THING.. nothing more .. nothing less....

Humiliation is a mind game...... and to play it one must be very good at reading other people.. of finding their weak spots.. of knowing which weak spot to use and which to cherish ......... hitting the wrong one can cause immense damage.. hitting the right one can cause immense satisfaction and pleasure for all who participate.........

2 comments:

drakor66 said...

oh how wonderful to be at a stage where I was considered a thing. But not humiliating if done too soon I would be bored of the individual and seek others in a session well maybe one or two sessions but still like the panties boring after a while. So a good investigation but you have many suspects but no guilty party yet but this is fun so keep trying

Jo aka SeaRabbit said...

I know that feeling... once is fine... twice is too much... but humiliation plays are really talking to me... I wonder when I'll be in a position to go through that again,,,